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Explore

2012-02-09T08:50:00.002-08:00

Looking forward is exploring and looking Back is deploring

Unkown is always more exicting then Known

Joy in exploring oneself is never ending pursuit

Thinking

2012-02-09T07:51:00.000-08:00

Thinking Style reflect green and Red Facet of an Individual

Floating in Thoughts brings us to The conclusions

Thinking is absurd till it's Understood

2012-01-25T02:13:00.000-08:00

Kindness keep us Tall among ordinary

Being Kind to others only help us to be kind to ourselves

Kindness is statement of internal peace to our existence

Emotions

2012-01-24T23:21:00.000-08:00

Emotions are as pure as water till we colored them with our greed
Motion and emotions are interlinked to achieve the all around Glory

Flow of Emotions is as essential as Oxygen for our survival

Bright Spots

2012-01-24T02:32:00.000-08:00

Looking into Brightness Invariably Brings Shines in our Lives
Deep in darkness Light awaits For our Response

Connecting to Optimism is Like Bringing God to your Footsteps

The View

2012-01-24T00:44:00.001-08:00

We believe only on our thoughts and Ignore our actions
Keeping everything to oneself is fine But allowing others to yourself is divine

Our views can be personal but outlook need to be universal

The Journey without Prejudice

2012-01-23T22:26:00.000-08:00

In Journey of Life you command yourself or others may command you

The Journey is special till you feel you are special

Revisit yourself it may open new Horizons for you and people around You

Criticism always pays

2011-04-04T04:01:00.000-07:00

Criticism provokes us to do better and prove our point. Digesting the opposite views is difficult and painful but it throws the opportunity to introspect. Negative motivation can also triggers the good performance and acceptance to condemnation is step further for the improvement. It’s like a safety valve and helpful in keeping individual close to the ground realties. As an adult we intend to learn from experiences and criticism is mode that allows us to learn and grow.

Criticism brings anger and anger is nothing but energy. Energy if managed properly initiates the stronger commitment and determination to outperform in any situation. Human tendency is by and large to pull us to complacency after initial fervor in most our ventures and criticism facilitates in igniting the passion. The best approach to handle the criticism is to accept its presence for all time and situation irrespective of our liking or not. It’s a passing storm that has its impact but May not able to uproot us.

Fame without Fanfare

2011-03-30T04:42:00.000-07:00

We understand only one language of fame which shows our prominence in our sphere of things. Fame means where adulation comes from all corners and life always seen at the top of the world. You are recognized in all your ventures and we love the dominating presence to relegate anything surround us. Fame is platform to show off our achievement and it pushes us to more and more. The beat is louder and broader for fullest impact for feeling the all time high. Fame can be silent and quite as well. When individual feels and touched by his effort and without showing explicitly celebrate with him-self. Even ordinary accomplishments bring so much satisfaction and glory.

Fame without fanfare is possible and sustainable for longer time. Internal recognition is much more powerful then which accompany the great fanfare. Normal human being can also commemorate his or her success with internal satisfaction. So must have fame but may be not always with great fanfare.

Something is only interesting if you are interested in it

2011-03-29T06:16:00.000-07:00

Understanding our liking and disliking is a big dilemma for most of us. Unless and until we show our explicit interest in any materialistic or non materialistic objects, it’s difficult to apprehend our inclinations. The curiosity generates interest and interest lead to desires sometimes reflected in our conduct and sometimes may not be.

Nothing can fascinate us till we show our interest and where the interest is missing even most exciting object can be ignored by us. So there is no illusion or circumstantial impact on our preference but its only individual’s attachment that drives his or her interests. So be open to our predilections and avoid being hypocrite in our behavior

Life with a Purpose

2011-03-29T04:13:00.000-07:00

Any individual who live life with a purpose more likely attain more happiness and success .The purpose can be vary from simple passion to do well in music or to achieve the maximum in her or his profession. Idea is to orient our approach with single point of focus and only to allow the minimum distractions so that purpose is, prime in life. People with this state of mind are calm and more seasoned. Wavering mind invite troubles and balancing all aspects of life is a hurricane task so moving on with single line of purpose is a wise option. Initially there can be challenges in building the acceptance to the people who matter and us but ultimately the objective is understood by others. When we have one point agenda in mind it result in better depth in our approach. We start looking in to things in broader way and surrounding irritates are meaningless to us. Finding or identifying purpose is a task but once it’s done life can be as smooth as we desire

Ready For Surprises

2011-03-29T02:50:00.000-07:00

In life what we avoid invariably we are forced to face those situations and we call them surprises. You pray and wish for predicable journey in life but most of the time life throws surprises on us. Even when we prepared to face them still it may bring pain and hardships. The answer to these calls is to treat these surprises as common happenings at any phase or juncture of life. When we perceive ourselves immune to challenges it exposes us to uncertainties. We all are vulnerable to circumstances and there is no harm in accepting it

Cyclic web the underline Reality

2010-09-17T01:09:00.000-07:00

There is a cycle in all our ventures and understanding of this can help us in reducing lot of stress from life. Emotion, status, fame, prosperity anything tangible or non tangible follow a particular cycle. In each cycle there exist particular patterns and observing them can awaken us to holistic point of view. Tackling these wavering times is the task and we flounder most of time to manage this. If we are able to visualize these cycles, we are better prepared for seeing the unseen. The results are stupendous as it bring more calmness and tranquility in our thinking and actions.

The best of approach is to learn being spectator. What is happening in our surroundings and other events we must observe them and learn from them and ultimately we can sneak into invisible.

Men are cruel, Man is Kind

2010-09-14T00:19:00.000-07:00

Treating all the people in same basket is the mistake we all make in judging people. We meet all kind of people throughout our life. There are mix experiences but we keep on finding the kind hearted and loving individual manifesting lifelong impression on us. We remember ills created by few of them but ignore to glorify the good done by so many.

We must praise and appreciate if someone has done well to us as this will encourage him to replicate with others. Commending always send positive vibrations to all and ultimately helps in building the positive environment. Negativity, hate, criticism and cynicism are associated with natural flow of our persona and to extol the kindness it demands some efforts.

So let talk about individuals impulsive to demonstrate benevolence as they deserve it. We can avoid being apprehensive about others as all Men are not cruel.

Celebrating Aloofness

2010-09-07T23:20:00.000-07:00

Being in system and still not getting attach to the system is thing to be appreciated. We may not able to avoid the ground realties around us related to any aspect of Life but at the same time if we are able to remain aloof in any unwanted facet of our existing surroundings we must respect this.

Someone can comment on it as two-facedness but if we are capable of managing the affairs without much of uproar in around us we can say it’s definitely a reason to be valued. Isolation or aloofness gives us the opportunity to live on our own terms and allow us stick to our values, beliefs without any constraints. We get peace of mind and easily practice the mantra of live and let live.

So aloofness is state of mind to strengthen our individuality where life can be more purposeful without any inhibitions. The understanding is to celebrate the aloofness for the personal gain.

Exercise control Anger

2010-09-01T21:59:00.000-07:00

People who are disciplined with their exercise regime are able manage the anger in a batter way . There is a science working behind this logic and very relevant in our conduct. The basic fact is that we can channelize our energy in a constructive way. Anger is nothing but it is one of form of force in our body which erupts in given situation.

The other important aspect is the engagement of mind in particular fashion to avoid the negative influence in our daily routine. Anger is natural phenomena and its presence cannot be denied but exercise is a good antidote to manage the anger. When we are able to harmonize the physical activity with our mind the results are astonishing. As we start challenging our fitness it allow us to control our temperament.

So another benefit of adapting some kind of physical activity in our daily life style. There are tangible advantages and amusingly non tangible gains are also quite substantial.

Conflicting Situations

2010-09-01T02:32:00.000-07:00

There are situations in life when we contradict ourselves. May be we are not very clear about our own approach and struggle to evaluate the circumstances in a right way. Differing thoughts engage us in denying the reality.
Conflicting situations are bound to come as there are no easy answers always. This also challenges our set beliefs and thoughts and open our mind to unsullied thinking terrain. Sometimes good become bad and bad look fine and this is nothing but state of mind at that juncture. Conflicts create confusions as we are not aware and sure about the path to be followed.

These are good opportunities for us to revisit our thought process .We get pain and stress in this kind of circumstances but in long term it brings varied experience to deal with the contradictions.

Fitness in the Mind

2010-08-19T22:58:00.000-07:00

As an ordinary individual we always struggle with our chronological age .We are overpowered by our age to carry our self in day to day life. The stigma of getting older clearly reflected in our personality. The physical movements are curtailed to depict our physical stage. Perception overwhelmed our thoughts then the actual state of affairs. We become conscious to defy the rules which may challenge our particular stage of life. Life is described in a defined sequential manner.
The psychological age has no relation with our actual age and it defies all the rules. We must realize that what we perceive that we get. Fitness is in mind and we can only challenge the physical with mental strength. Life cycle has its own path but we can confront with the realties with great vigor if we can mend our pereception.

Anger drains you

2010-05-27T00:52:00.000-07:00

Whenever we are angry in any situation it takes lot of energy. We are bound to show the rage with maximum impact and it always result in exhausting our energy. The momentary outburst of power drains us. Only after a substantial period the normal state of mind reoccur

After effects give us more stress as we may take path of reconciliation or remorse. So it again demands to evolve the ways to get out of area of antagonism or conflicts. The state of hostility needs efforts to cool our nerves. As we strive for more energy to express our anger the same way cooling process also follow the same path.

The way out is seems to be simple but being a normal Human Being difficult to apply. Only viable solution in all means is to change the direction then submitting our-self to obvious stressful means of exhibiting anger. We need to save our energy for more meaningful purposes.

Identity Crisis

2010-05-25T01:21:00.000-07:00

We all suffer from syndrome called Identity crisis. Majority of our efforts are to probe our identity in any given situation but it has been more of struggle for all of us. We camouflage with superficial identities based on Region, Religion and so on but heartening fact is still there is a void in our explanations to describe one-self.

Our distinctiveness is the real edge over others and ironically we follow the bandwagon to obvious where the crowd pulls us. We are keen to identify to get security, comfort and
Predominately reluctant to defy the rules. In dominating instances the uniqueness is superimposed and superseded by existing norms due to our identification with particular class. Even when we don’t want relate to particular group acceptance is key for survival.

Important is to respect our characteristics to live more meaningful and influential life. Once we are clear regarding our predilections its easy to come out of the syndrome called identity crisis.

Great

2010-05-13T21:18:00.000-07:00

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2010-05-13T00:32:00.000-07:00

Birds and Sayings

2010-05-12T23:40:00.000-07:00

Eye Caching Photos

Walk the Talk | Walk The Talk Movie

2010-05-12T20:18:00.000-07:00

Walk the Talk Walk The Talk Movie

The Secret

2010-05-12T01:58:00.001-07:00

The secrets are well known to all of us but looking into them and altering our preferences is the real secret. Gook book to re-align our thinking to shift the focus on individual.The concept like what we resist always persist is an appreciable thinking.

Law of attraction is driver in building our approach in handling various situations.All is existing beneath us and only to realise it ,is the secret.Let's explore the secret

Perception

2010-05-05T21:59:00.000-07:00

Perception always plays an important in our visualization. Everyone take the outcome of any eventuality to his or her perception. This sensitivity is created in our mind to receive the things according to our already established notions. The perception is a leading indicator of our preferences and our actions are managed to its tune.

Making or breaking of perceptions is more circumstancal then anything else. Relationships and our lifestyles are outcome of this trait only. When we are able to compare ourselves with others it may help us to understand the pattern of individual perceptions. Our opinions and beliefs are perception driven and even when we upgrade our knowledge it’s intake again obsessed with predefined perceptions.

Adventures Journey

2010-04-21T21:46:00.000-07:00

Adventure challenge us and our true-self is reflected only when we are exposed to any kind of adventure. Physical endurance allows us to unveil the real picture concerned to our personality and Health. One can camouflage in comfortable environment but unforeseen situation are difficult to manage.

Adventure let an individual to take pause and introspect as truth is prominent in outcome of any challenging activity. People with quest for physical challenges in Life are more balanced. They are well versed with the ground realties and easily amenable to change. This set of individuals understands the magnitude of vivid uncertainties in the Journey of life. So it’s wonderful get indulge in any adventures activity once a while and it surely going to help us in making our beliefs strong to face any challenges in life.

When you saw Death

2010-04-12T22:04:00.000-07:00

There are incidences in life where you experience the close shave with death. We may pray that it may not happen with anyone what you never know if it can occur around you. If someone fortunately or unfortunately experiences this in his lifetime it can change the whole prospective of your life. You start realizing the value of life and it may lead us to alter our approach

We take life for granted and always perceive that it will follow the predefined path but one jolt can misdemeanor our conviction. The positive aspect is that you tend to feel light and comfortable by accepting life as it is.

These kinds of incidents bolster our belief in the supernatural power controlling our acts. Faith in God is reinforced in our gestures and your modesty reflects the change.

Magnanimity and Optimism

2010-03-25T22:04:00.000-07:00

Magnanimity connotes the generosity we exhibit in our conduct. When we think large the triviality itself exit from our thought process. It means we are more open and that ultimately lead to more kindness and softness. The profound belief in helping others allows us to re-look the influence of negativism from our personality. Nobility in any sphere of life is reflected as humbleness to deal with various situations.

When we start thinking big hope is tangled with this approach. We begin to get more positive and feel a sense of strong confidence in what ever we do. Cynicism converts to anticipation and expectations. This sate is nothing but optimism. So moment we change our outlook to a larger canvass it has direct impact on the negative state of mind. Conclusion is to mold our thoughts to larger platform to add buoyancy in our lives.

To Look Back

2010-03-23T04:41:00.000-07:00

There are days in a year where we can look back and introspect. Special days in a year are meant for celebrations and to feel good. You expect greetings and tend to feel obliged for love and affection thrown on you. The moments are full of admiration, respect and gratitude. Individual loves to get pampered are good surprises are always welcomed.

These are the days when we may take pause and revisit the moments of past and visualize the future. Milestones allow us to cherish the past and excite us to cherish the wonderful time in front. All this make you more humble and seasoned. On these joyful moments we also seek our relationships strengths.

Birthdays and other important days in a year are perfect occasions to look back and imagine future.

When nature prevails over you

2010-03-05T20:52:00.001-08:00

When we challenge our self the outcome is always going to give us the profound satisfaction.The curiosity to conquer the unknown allow us achieve great things in life

Physical strength is only inconsequential if mental commitments not able to compliment it.The physical pain lead us to ignite the exploration to evaluate our mental strength

Beauty Attracts You

2010-02-19T23:23:00.000-08:00

Anything which is beautiful always attracts us in some way or other. Beauty is first step in building our desire or need in any aspect of life. It creates sensation for taking action to grasp the particular object. Beauty can be understood in umpteen ways as magnificence, splendor or gorgeousness depending on our preferences. But amusingly it triggers in us the excitement and craving for it.

Another amazing manifestation of beauty is its power to give the impressions. We carry the first impression from the exterior demeanor only. All the wonderful living or non living physical objects put charm in our lifestyles. Sometimes beauty drives us to achieve new horizons and it can also lead us to awkward situations.

Philosophical or spiritual view can proliferate that internal beauty is the ultimate and long lasting but we can not deny the strength of external beauty for its significance. So lets celebrate the beauty in its all forms.

The Real Hero

2010-02-16T07:18:00.000-08:00

The efforts with passion can lead us to glory.Another master piece by Gerg and God may give him strength to continue his efforts in year to come.Its a wonderful book which narrates the importance of passion in our life.

Influencing someone is hard task

2010-02-08T21:10:00.000-08:00

In today’s era of information and networking influencing some one is Herculean task “.I know syndrome” is prevailing all over us. Even with the best of reasoning other individual stick to his beliefs and approach in life. The profound style is to be defensive or to get offensive in given situation. Parents fail to influence kids and spouse always struggle to make any mark on each other. Predominately getting influenced is either treated as we are surrendering to the particular view point or it taken as blind acceptance in general parlance. In few occasion if we are able to influence some one it may not sustain for very long. Politician can sway the support only with fleeting persuasion on masses.

Yes it is possible to make your mark on others and but irony is this ask for stupendous effort to achieve this. It requires consistency, selfishness, expressiveness and patience, above all the zeal to conquer some one existing line of thinking. In we can do that the reciprocated feelings received are difficult to explain in words.

Consumerism lure wastages

2010-02-01T01:51:00.000-08:00

The biggest problem with consumerism is that it always lures you to consume more then but we require or need. The basic instinct of all human beings is influenced by some kind of greed and in any given opportunity it swallows our control mechanisms. The consumption is not bad till it confine to our appropriate need but invariably it lead to wastages. We tend to buy more then what we actually require. Our needs are defined with products and not by the usefulness. The rapid ever increasing deficiency in available resources is the out come of this phenomenon.

Consumerism no doubt triggers growth and such we all must enjoy all the good amenities related to good life. Key is to limit are consumption keeping in mind that it must avoid any generation of waste. Surplus word is only temporary and time cycle always changes it. When we have huge resources crunch over consumption is criminal.

The cure is in our mind and moment we start realizing and introspecting our temptations we may able to be more judicious in our consumption patterns. There is no end to greed and consumerism unfortunately some time enhance our this instinct.

Wake up to the reality (Three cups Of Tea)

2010-01-09T09:04:00.000-08:00

Education is the only tool which can spread and propogate peace in the world. We must admire the Real achievers .

Thinking of Food

2009-12-17T01:52:00.000-08:00

Food is key for our survival but just imagine how much time we spend in talking of food. We discuss about it before its consumption and after enjoying a sumptuous meal. Food is an essential topic in all general casual discussions. The importance of a good meal is much beyond our urge to satisfy the hunger only. Food build relationships, it make us compatible to others and most significantly allow us to enjoy the great moments.

Our eating preferences predict the approach of one self in way we are treating our life. People who are adventurers in trying different food may be more open for change and experimentation. Cooking for others exhibit our nature to please other and ultimately the passion to serve. Food ignites our excitement to live each moment of this precious life. Love and respect get stronger with mutual exchanges of treats. Food helps us in understanding different cultures, regions and religions as we start appreciating the diversities.

2009-12-13T20:13:00.000-08:00

Excellent Book with very simple explantion of complex questions in Life

Happiness is conditional and joyfulness is unconditional

2009-11-24T23:21:00.000-08:00

Reading this statement triggers the anxiety to learn more about happiness and joyfulness.
Happiness is momentary and it’s always set off with few actions or activities .Mostly the feeling of happiness is transitory in nature and rarely did we fall continuity in its presence. So happiness is outcome of certain favorable happening which provide us the fleeting solace. Happiness comes with some background/circumstances and we can say with condition. This is the reason for trail to happiness is on going affair in our lives.

Joyfulness is permanent state of ecstasy. The bliss that engulf us forever and without any preconditions Three are no deviation in our state of mind and everlasting joy prevails in our feeling and relations .It surpass all the mundane obstacles or conditions for being happy. It may sound unrealistic but at the same time very possible and achievable state of mind. Look for opportunities which can sail you to perpetual jubilations.

Relationships Without obligations

2009-11-24T01:12:00.000-08:00

In all our relations in life the ubiquitous obligations always come in picture. Whatever we claim and propagate about relations without any obligation but in practical parlance it never happens. Ironically even if you evolve the relations with out any expectations still it is perceived with some expected compulsion. Relations based on mutual respect, love or affection may sound as myth to all of us. Any kind of consideration may be the base the existence of all nature of relationships.

But the other aspect of understanding is that there are relations without any obligations. It’s only possible when we are not expecting anything from any kind of relation which is almost impossible. Initiation of relations generally is without any compulsions but as we move ahead depiction start taking different colors of obligations.

The trick of sustenance is controlling our expectations out of the relations. If we are able to manage our relations with minimum expectations it may lead us to a stage where we can experience the relations without any obligations.

A Whole new Mind” Are we Ready?

2009-11-12T22:40:00.000-08:00

This reading can awaken us to face the new era belong to divergent thinkers. We are profoundly overpowered by the one track thinking in all aspects of life and new realties of future will push us for the solutions with Human Touch.

Ultimately it’s all in the brain irrespective of left or right hemisphere and first we need to understand ourselves as “Human” to change our perspective. World has to be explored with different mind set for better future for next generations

Social Support Dieing Pact

2009-11-09T22:21:00.000-08:00

Society over the period is more on fault finding mission among people then to facilitate them in bearing pain and frustrations.People are restrain themselves from relating to society for the known reasons.

The Shift from joint family living is playing havocs all around. The pain of loneliness is far stretched then opportunity to get more space in life. It’s making impact on our physiological age and illness is the accepted norm after certain age. Sometimes there is no one to whom we can look forward to in life.

Society is an excellence medium to counter the cropping of unwanted elements. It can curtail the notorious aspect of human beings to a large extent. The regime has its own limitations and it only get indulge in post acts instead of eradicating the distortions at beginning. Society is watch dog which ultimately can penetrate deep in human actions across the universe to weed out poison.

The difficulty of being good

2009-11-05T03:55:00.000-08:00

Wonderful book to give us insight for self improvement

Act of Violence

2009-11-05T02:06:00.000-08:00

The meaning of violence is understood in limited context by most of us. Individual’s behavior manifest violence in multiple dimension in our span of life. Aggressive approach, greediness, over ambitions and being selfish connote violence only. We first torture our self with avoidable sufferings resulted from defective mindset

We rarely meet a person who is at complete peace and free from all kind of violence. One has to realize that brutality or blood shed is the extreme form of violence. If we can control the act of violence at initial stage this may help in avoiding any involvement in any extreme act of violence. Always chasing the dead lines divert us to be impulsive and inconsistent approach and ultimately we fall prey to violent behavior.

For achieving the long lasting peace we must safeguard our own self from agony of undue stress. Tranquility in personality signifies the comfort and harmony with oneself. When we can ease the mind from lust and greed violence is only non consequential factor in our society.

Faith is everything

2009-11-05T00:41:00.000-08:00

The Book nine lives tell us the story of faith and beliefs which are the prime mover in making our life meaningful .When we our rational it only results in more contradictions then leading us to any answers.

The Other Side of Story

2009-10-23T22:44:00.000-07:00

The mind gets conditioned very soon and it can reflect in our thinking process. Our approach to receive and process the information follows the set pattern. We start perceiving only the programmed reactions in and around us. There are self created filters bound to get activated due to our mind set for visualizing only one aspect of the story.

Solutions to address this thinking process is awakening and enlightenment with gaining more information. We must develop the profound belief to explore all the information at core to its inception. Unless we dig in deep we may sound superficial and hollow in our under standings in concerning matters important for existence.

Books are unequivocally the universal media and means to shower the wisdom knowledge to depict the complete picture. Reading allows us to flow in information and knowledge and in depth clarity on any subject. Mind set can only be challenged with introspection and books are delightful resource to accomplish that.

Fear is The cause of All Miseries

2009-08-05T04:22:00.000-07:00

Fear in any nature or kind results in miseries in our life .Fear haunt us from the path of happiness at different junctures. When we are frightened it put us in state of anxiety and stress. There is continuous battle in our mind to suppress the fear and to win over the horrific consequence of this state of mind.

Fear prevails in various dimensions in our personality and no one is immune to its presence in our approach. Intensity may vary depending on individual’s personality and circumstances. Fear of unknown is dominant in altering our thinking in negative direction. As we all feel insecure at times that is the phase which cultivate fear of unknown .Over consciousness also can put us in avoidable state of fear. Situations even compel us to get influenced by fear to some extent.

The only approach to tackle the fear is to get passionate and to be extremist in our approach. Over indulgence help us in ignoring even the common consequences. We start taking the things as they come and that result in fearlessness. The fear can be killed with fear only to end all our miseries.

When you are not True

2009-07-31T00:41:00.000-07:00

Always speaking truth and being honest may be not that relevant in life. Truthfulness can hurt people and in some situations lead to more upheavals then harmony and peace. Keeping other person in illusions can be more appropriate for lifting the spirits of a sliding individual. In life recurrently we need breathers for moving ahead and harsh truth can deviate us from achieving the required momentum.

So hiding the facts or to disguise true picture essentially is not always detrimental for relationships. All aspects of life can not be black and white and grey areas do exists, managing these, demands maneuvering at times. We also like to play hide and seek for making our life adventuress and challenging. So when we are not true it adds twist to life.

Facing the truth is an incremental process; we seek time to prepare our mind set to accept the realties in our environment. Gradual progression is facilitated by some deviations in this path of reaching at ultimate stage of truthfulness.

When you are misunderstood

2009-07-10T02:15:00.000-07:00

What we mean and how it is taken by another person is always intriguing aspect in dealing with people. People attempt to understand us with their own mind set and that it self lead to the misunderstandings.

These gaps are the result of lack of communication or when we are communicating without conviction. Expression is more clear and specific when we are unequivocal in demonstrating our thoughts in our words. Any manipulation in expression exposes us to the distortion in our communication. Some times we are not received in right context by another individual. This situation is more tricky and sensitive to handle. Solution is simple and straight that if we are sincere and clear in our approach the misunderstandings will remain as passing phase in dealing with others. Patient is the key factor and as well as the controlling factor in avoiding any mishaps. Vibrations of truthfulness will prevail over the cracks and persistent in pursuance of our beliefs bound to make us understood.

Success Brings Pain

2009-07-03T02:49:00.000-07:00

The glaring example is the life of Michael Jackson (MJ). In all our life we keep on striving for our self defined parameters of success and glory but when it comes we our self are incapable to handle it and as well as understand it. All our deeds always contemplate to achieve the ultimate to experience the path of recognition and fame in our respective fields.

We at pinnacle of our achievements are perceived at definitive state of peace and happiness but ironically most of us passing through the acute pain and emotional disasters in this phase of life. Expectations are raised to never imagine heights and coming good on one trigger the struggle for another. At top we are alone, materialistic success regrettably enlarges our gaps in society. Another interesting and unsettling aspect is that we start to develop the tendency to ignore the ground realities as fame and success intoxicates our reasoning abilities.

The end of this cycle is devastatingly painful if we are not able to handle our success in a reasonable way. In this fall out the sufferers are many who get along with us in this ladder of success and glory. So getting at top is only the half battle won, sustaining there is the real challenge. The hard truth is that sometimes average achievement is more satisfying then to be at top.

Arrogance the Gateway to Disaster

2009-06-26T00:44:00.000-07:00

Arrogance is not related to furious or aggressive attitude always; even polite and soft personalities reflect the arrogance in their approach. Superciliousness is nothing but the consistent rigid behavior adopted by an individual in his or her routine behavior. Without realizing after effects on one self we keep getting sliding in web of arrogance.

The root cause for arrogance is not the personality of an individual but it’s more related the circumstances around us. Superficial success or status overpowers are rationality in thinking and with time it is hard for us to have open an approach in our life. Our achievements and accomplishments results in building the myopic view in us. Instead treating each aspect with unsullied approach our past laurels inflict us to the tunnel view. The end result is that we are not able to face the ground realties as and when that is need of the time.

Arrogance is self destructive tool and even with best of success and accomplishments it will lead us to the inevitable disaster. The life cycle circle with time will show us ultimate truth sooner or later. If we mend our ways in between it may allow us to save from the point of no return. So arrogance is not in personalities but it is more related to our dealing with situations.

Disconnect to get connected

2009-06-17T05:18:00.000-07:00

In relationships we take lot of things for granted and expect the relationships to sustain in all the adversities of time. Any aspect of life which comes with fewer efforts is given less importance in our priorities. We tend to be invert looking in are action to carry on our relationships, in other words we start believing that our views and actions always best and appropriate in nurturing the relationships. This may lead to spoiling and damaging our relations. In any sphere of relations bitterness and tautness is a pain and we must make efforts to avoid it.

Getting disconnect in relations is an effective approach to rejuvenate the relationships. This disconnect can be physical or mental for some short period. When someone is not around us for some period the self introspection is bound to play its part in understanding the weakness and strengths of our relationships. For the things we take for granted, we realize are difficult to attain. Monotony is broken and a fresh look can be to various aspects of our relations. The gap allows us to look around and to do the comparison in similar context with people involved in the relationships. Strong desire of companionship enforce us to revisit our styles after experience a certain pause in relationship continuity.

Means and ways to strengthen and sustain our relations is never ending journey in our life time. As an individual if we our committed to our relations, trialing on new conducts will help us for being accepted as better human beings. So get disconnect to get connected in stronger manner. Too deep connectivity for longer period in relationships sometimes results in suffocation.

Economic Ideals Of Gandhi

2009-06-16T21:05:00.000-07:00

In this period of immense depression in the economies of entire world, we need to re-look the existing economic models prevalent in different nations. The advent of capitalism and socialism has only given the suffering in real sense and there is dire need of some model which is based on simple assumptions of helping and supporting the human race. We as the common men expect basic needs to be fulfilled and always look forward to reasonable secure future. We envisage ways and means which are sustainable by influencing are life styles those reflect the optimum consumption and utilization of resources of the universe. Now it is the time to revisit the economic model propagated by Gandhi to gain some insight to resolve the present crisis.

The Basic Tenets of Gandhi's Economic Views
Gandhi had an innate sympathy for the poor and deprived. This coupled with a direct observation of the predicament of the poor and the oppressed both in India and in South Africa led him to design an economic model that would alleviate the condition of the poor and the deprived. Gandhi believed that the high capitalist endeavors were at the root of all suffering. He believed that business without ethical considerations was fundamentally evil. This led to discrimination, oppression and exploitation. Gandhi also held that there is enough in this world to feed and clothe all. However, there is poverty and deprivation because one group of people thrives on the labor put in by others. Gandhi strongly believed in the ethics of hard work and that one is entitled to take from the system only as much as he is capable of producing. This according to Gandhi, was the only way to fight poverty and to disarm the world of all its economic woes. Gandhi also strongly believed that laziness and lack of work can cause immense physical and spiritual deprivation among the populace. It is impossible to ignite the masses towards a revolution leading to a bigger political or ideological goal if they are weak, both physically and morally. He understood that the new industrial modes of mass and large scale productions that have been ousting the age-old indigenous village techniques are ultimately leading towards unemployment and laziness. Therefore, he worked hard for a resurrection of the village modes of production. The most unique feature of Gandhi's economic model was he wanted to turn the entire flow of profits from the pockets of the big industrialists to the workers. The consumer should, he believed, not only be concerned with acquiring high quality, inexpensive products, but also consider which sections of society are profited by his investment. Foreign clothes may be better and cheaper than the home-spun khadi, but the relentless use of the imported fabric would lead to unemployment of thousands of villagers who have traditionally earned a living by spinning and weaving home-made clothes. The same logic extends to agro-based products as well. Choosing such imported goods would lead to a degeneration of the entire village economy, which was the backbone of Indian economy, Gandhi believed. But at the same time, Gandhi knew the actual implications of an aggressive capitalism: no such humanitarian economic considerations can possibly curb the relentless advance of the big mechanizations initiated by high capitalist agencies. Therefore, he devised a scheme to suit one and all. A nation low on man-power can well use mechanization to enhance its agricultural and mechanical production. But for a nation with a teeming population like India, it would augur no good. Secondly, he thought that a nation should produce only as much as it needs to produce. Extra production, resulting in the beginning of international economic race, would only lead to exploitation. The condition in India, for Gandhi, was ultimately a manifestation of the aggressive mechanization promoted by the British colonialists.

Rural Economy, Khadi and Handlooms
One of the greatest challenges for Gandhi was to rope in every strata of the Indian society into his ideals of economic self sufficiency. Gandhi understood that the very backbone of India was its villages. Unless the village economy could be reformed, nothing could be achieved on the economic front. In his bid to resurrect the rural economy of India, Gandhi started to advocate the use of handmade tools to plough lands. He did not endorse huge farm holdings with modern agricultural machines. Such holdings, he thought, would naturally bring in discrimination where one would reap the benefits of the toil put in by someone else. Gandhi's more revolutionary concept that gathered great popularity throughout the nation was his defense for the cause of handicrafts and handlooms. It was a pointed attack against the mill-made textiles introduced by the British authorities and was an important part of their economic interests in India. Gandhi gave the call to all Indians to desist from the use of all foreign products and for everyone to spin his or her own clothes. The 'charakha' or the spinning wheel and the khadi, or the homespun coarse cloth became the very symbol of nationalism and a sign for the support for national economy. Gandhi made it compulsory for all satyagrahis to use khadi clothes. It was an important economic statement made by Gandhiji. All forms of rural handicrafts achieved great encouragement from Gandhi.

A Review of Gandhi's Economic Models
Actual understanding of the Indian condition led to the development of a unique brand of economic re-orientation of the Indian society that he propagated throughout his life. However, it will be erroneous to consider his economic model to be merely a political tool shrouded in spiritual rhetoric. His concern for the predicament of the Indian villagers was genuine, as was his concern for a heartless mechanization of the world economy sans ethical considerations. In his time, the influence of his economic model was immense and has been dutifully followed in various parts of the world as well as in India, with varied degrees of success.

Happiness is Just a mirage

2009-06-15T21:16:00.000-07:00

A baby announces its arrival in the world with its shrill cries; a man announces his departure from the world by his unbroken stony silence. The book of life covering the period between birth and death contains pages of joy and sorrow, success and failure, triumph and tragedy, pleasure and pain, fulfillment and disappointment, health and sickness. Life is a mixed bag of pairs of opposites. Highs and lows are interwoven and form integral parts of the mosaic of life.

It is our basic nature to seek happiness. Do we get it? When we look around we find ourselves surrounded by suffering. We feel uneasy; that we are perched on an island of some happiness, surrounded on all sides by deep and dark waters of unhappiness. Is happiness just a mirage? The fact is that there is neither undiluted happiness, nor unabated unhappiness. Life is both. However, the nature of pain is such that it appears that the unhappy phase of life is interminably long.

When we are faced with unhappy situations, we may derive some comfort by observing and learning from Nature. A cold and dark night yields to the refreshing morning sun, with its soothing rays of warmth, radiating light dispelling darkness. After every chilly winter, there comes the spring, bringing warmth, hope and cheer. At the end of a dark long tunnel, there is light.

Happiness is a state of mind, which keeps us in a state of well being. Several important ingredients go to make the “commodity” known as happiness. But this precious commodity is simply not available in a departmental store. While money can buy pleasures, it cannot buy happiness. A rich man need not necessarily be happy. By the same token a poor man need not necessarily be unhappy. Happiness has to be experienced from within. A fairly comfortable financial position, cordial and harmonious family relations and good health contribute to a happy life. But these alone would not ensure enduring happiness. Many a time we script unhappiness for ourselves and for others.

The mind reacts to external stimuli and this could sometimes bring us happiness or unhappiness. For enduring happiness, the internal war that rages within our minds should first cease. We should come to terms with external ground realities. As physical training keeps the body in good shape, so also mental training helps in keeping the mind tranquil and balanced in the face of adversity.

Things happen not as we want them to, but according to a pre-obtained scheme of things, over which we have little control. We were not consulted about the choice of our parents, place of birth our sex. Neither will we be consulted about our time of death, its place and manner. The cards are dealt to us. We have to play them to the best of our ability. We do not gain anything by fretting or fuming over things over which we have no control whatsoever. We only become unhappy in the process. Accept gracefully the things given to us, the good or bad, and abjectly surrender to the dictates of destiny.

Life does not lend itself to strictly scientific analysis. In the rough and tumble of life two plus two may not necessarily equal to four. There are many questions for which we have no answers.

Endurance

2009-05-12T05:36:00.000-07:00

Unless and until we put ourselves into the physical hardships it is just impossible to develop the endurance in our personality. When we push the things to ultimate test then only we can evaluate our capacities and capabilities. Extreme conditions always help us in highlighting the hidden strength with in us.

So expose one self to difficult physical challenges and introspect the level of endurance in our character. Test the fitness level on demanding scales; it will give us great high after unbearable pain

Thrill That Kills

2009-03-20T00:09:00.000-07:00

The biggest tragedy of time is the overwhelming presence of fear of unknown in our minds. Negativity is bombarded from all the direction in our day to day life it stars from early morning newspaper and keep us engage till the late night TV news. One aspect which we may not able to ignore that the negativity give us some thrill and even with best of our efforts we succumb to it's prevailing presence in our lives. Crime , violence are our strong associates allowing us to get the thrill of destruction and devastation. Passively pulling down others with all means is a dominating tendency in our mind. Curiosity to explore negativity is a driving force within us and which compel us to get influence or overpowered by it. The animal instinct of dominance is instrumental to our indulgence in violence and crime. We enjoy the movies with larger dose of violence most of the times and reading material with higher content of crime give us thrill. The Saviour and destroyer both are part of our fantasy world. Driving recklessly,drinking absurdly are also related to this latent fascination towards crime and violence which pertains to some kind of thrill.

Generally all thrills at extreme levels are self destructive. Avoiding unnecessary exposure to crime and violence is an effective remedy to control our attraction to this kind of thrill.
Giving the consistent thoughts to the aftermath of violence is another measure that facilitate us in showing restrain to this dangerous thrill. We need to develop trait of sensitivity in our personality to get rid of violence in our minds.

Violent Minds

2009-03-12T00:53:00.000-07:00

Tender minds in childhood are vulnerable to violence and aggression. Overdose of violence through media ,movies and games is polluting the innocence minds with revengeful and destructive behavior. Our mind is too sensitive to all the activities whether reasonable or unreasonable. Any aspect taking the mature shape in mind is result of continuous and consistent hammering by different sources. We tend to ignore the child's excessive fascination and indulgence in violent games,toys and movies which prove fatal in later stage of individual's life. Aggression if not channelized it lead to frustration and alter the normal behavior to self destruction.

Sports is the ideal medium to improve and control our aggression. Physical games allow us to ventilate out our negative energy and it help us in balancing the aggression with politeness in all circumstances. Any sport teach us to become a good human being with all the positive qualities of a gentleman. Playing under laid down rules is instrumental in developing our mind set to hold on our feelings and emotion in an acceptable manner. Better to avoid any irrelevant exposure of violence to kids in their tender age as it can leave the strong impact on the thinking and approach. Play hard and learn hard need to be the motto of prevailing times for well being of human race.

Coloring Others in Your Colors

2009-03-10T00:16:00.000-07:00

The stupendous task is to influence some one with your own thought process. What ever we are and where ever we are,until other recognize our presence we feel ignored and dejected. We as an individual love to propagate our ideas and thoughts to the wider mass for self gratification. There is always a tendency of not sparing any opportunity to make felt our presence in any forum. We may proclaim our self to be aloof from adulation from others but in reality most of us are happy to be listened and praised for our thought process and line of thinking. It's immaterial for us to understood the quality and content of our approach but living with it related to our identity. Networking and social groups on net is the outcome of this trait of individuals. Means and media opted for fulfilling this ever present desire vary due to circumstances,resources and personalities.

Making mark on others with your thought is herculean task. The prime cause of this resistance is that we all are possessive and defensive to our own beliefs and thinking immensely. No one is comfortable to alter his or her stance easily as we relate it to our individuality. Coloring others in our colors is the challenge which fascinate us. Difficult but always possible. Important factor is how we position,profess our thoughts in our social and professional circles. We need to flavor our line of thinking to make it more acceptable to peers, friends and relatives. People can be influenced only when they are pushed to introspection, disbelief and ignorance.

Its a great feeling when people listen to us and recognize our stance on any matter or issue. So keep on striving to make your mark, once you are able to put your color on others it's everlasting and give you the sense of satisfaction and at same time trigger you to expand your following to the lager mass.

Chemistry of Love

2009-03-05T21:22:00.000-08:00

We all are prone to addictions and reason for any addiction is nothing but it stimulus our instincts. Addictions can be bad and may at times lead to havocs in our lives. To all the obsessions there is no limiting factor, a distinct chemistry in brain is responsible for any possessive and obsessive behavior.

when two individuals are in love ,the chemistry in brain is in it's hyper stage. The formulation of different chemicals in brain drive us to unique and exciting reactions. Our control on our senses is negligible and it take only unidirectional approach. Chemical reactions in brain create the euphoria around us and we keep falling to it's magic. The troubles and pains are out of our mind and optimism is prevalent all around. The stage is for complete surrenderer , adjustments,sacrifices and acceptance. The relation is treated and projected as unique and distinct lead to obsession ,possessiveness. We feel great sense of high and no drug can give this sense of high to the individual. So its beautiful addiction and more safe with very positive stimuli.
When we fall in love with other persons it's out come of biological,chemical phenomena,but to fall in love with oneself needs efforts. Imagine when we are in love with our self with same intensity.

The high will be unimaginable and everlasting. World around us will change for ever with full of joy and happiness. Obstacles ,insecurity ,fear of failure,uncertainties ,incompetence,incapabilities and weakness from or personality can be thing of past.
Fall in love with yourself to experience the everlasting high in life.

learning

2009-03-05T02:49:00.000-08:00

Great Article to change our point of view

It's been 18 years since I joined Volvo, a Swedish company. Working for them has proven to be an interesting experience. Any project here takes 2 years to be finalized, even if the idea is simple and brilliant. It's a rule. Globalized processes have caused in us (all over the world) a general sense of searching for immediate results. Therefore, we have come to posses a need to see immediate results. This contrasts greatly with! the slow movements of the Swedish. They, on the other hand, debate, debate, debate, hold several meetings and work with a slowdown scheme. At the end, this always yields better results. The first time I was in Sweden , one of my colleagues picked me up at the hotel every morning. It was September, bit cold and snowy. We would arrive early at the company and he would park far away from the entrance (2000 employees drive their car to work). The first day, I didn't say anything, either the second or third. One morning I asked, "Do you have a fixed parking space? I've noticed we park far from the entrance even when there are no other cars in the lot." To which he replied, "Since we're here early we'll have time to walk, and whoever gets in late will be late and need a place closer to the door. Don't you think we should help them too! ?" Imagine my face!

Nowadays, there's a movement in Europe name Slow Food. This movement establishes that people should eat and drink slowly, with enough time to taste their food, spend time with the family, friends, without rushing. Slow Food is against its counterpart: the spirit of Fast Food and what it stands for as a lifestyle. Slow Food is the basis for a bigger movement called Slow Europe, as mentioned by Business Week. Basically, the movement questions the sense of "hurry" and "craziness" generated by globalization, fueled by the desire of "having in quantity" (life status) versus "having with quality", "life quality" or the "quality of being".

French people, even though they work 35 hours per week, are more productive than Americans or British. Germans have established 28.8 hour workweeks and have seen their productivity been driven up by 20%. This slow attitude has brought forth the US 's attention, pupils of the fast and the "do it now!" This no-rush attitude doesn't represent doing less or having a lower productivity. It means working and doing things with greater quality, productivity, perfection, with attention to detail and less stress. It means re-establishing family values, friends, free and leisure time. Taking the "now", present and concrete, versus the "global", undefined and anonymous. It means taking humans' essential values, the simplicity of living. It stands for a less coercive work environment, more happy, lighter and more productive where humans enjoy doing what they know best how to do. It's time to stop and think on how companies need to develop serious quality with no-rush that will increase productivity and the quality of products and services, without losing the essence of spirit.

Many of us live our lives running behind time, but we only reach it when we die of a heart attack or in a car accident rushing to be on time. Others are so anxious of living the future that they forget to live the present, which is the only time that truly exists. We all have equal time throughout the world. No one has more or less. The difference lies in how each one of us does with our time.

We need to live each moment. As John Lennon said, "Life is what happens to you while you're busy making other plans". Thanks for reading till the end of this message. There are many who will have stopped in the middle so as not to waste time in this globalized world!

Think Beyond Business

2009-03-01T23:38:00.000-08:00

All the curse is the result of myopic view taken by most of us to handle socio-economic issues in this world. Basic factor for sustainability is evolved around the give and take approach. The problem lies in expecting all without giving anything, we avoid sharing wealth and resources. Disparity in society never moves us and we tend to follow only the path of based on selfishness and greed. There are transactions in life where we are not suppose to gain any returns but at the same time it's quintessential for humanity in totality. That aspect is quite ahead of normal business acumen ship and may give us in return something great to our expected line of thinking.
Let learn not to treat all happenings around with narrow business lines it will take us only to a life cycle which is going to lure us to strive for reaching a limit and then again to hit the bottom,these are vicious circles of up and downs. The classic example of exception is survival of all living things apart human beings if they are not disturbed by mankind's destructive handling of environment. Long term ,limited and stable sustainability without much upheavals and by consuming resources in a balanced manner.
Start getting acquainted to simple living and avoid the as many as frills in life. The quality of life is not related only to life styles but more to how we manage our surroundings and environment to add grace in our persona.

Sensibility the differentiating Factor

2009-02-26T23:09:00.000-08:00

We as human beings are capable of sensing the pain ,sorrow,distress, joy,happiness and excitement. God has given us this unique strength and trait in abandon limits then any other creature on Earth. This capability provide us edge as human beings to overpower and manage all existing resources in world around us. The sensibility presence vary one individual to other but otherwise it's omnipresent in all of us. Being sensitive to our environment signify the maturity and perfectness in our character.
The disturbing aspect in our grooming is that with time and circumstances we become insensitive to a greater extend. Race of survival shadowed our this uniqueness for directing us to a human being without soul. Ignorance ,avoidance,defiance are the ramifications of this state of mind. We are prone to influenced by the self centered individualistic approach. We are lure to greed and lust limited to our own survival. We redefine the processes and system to befit our vested interests only and society is victim of this approach. we create the superficially developed environment to please our senses.
We can only differentiate ourselves from other living creature if we sensitive to the environment,people and sufferings. Human beings are expected to adopt the seasoned ways to bring our generations in more loving and peaceful world.

Simplicity the Real answer

2009-02-26T07:18:00.000-08:00

Ultimately the simplicity is the only and stable answer to all the negativity and complexities around us .Society and individual’s bound to revisit the ever established affairs concerning us. Simple basic will lead us to a safe and secure life from these ever threatening circumstances. Over optimism and extreme negativity is ramification of indulgence in dynamism.
Let ‘s understand that our surroundings are there to provide us all the means for survival but keeping the balance in demand and consumption is critical for existence of all of us. Greed will produce more greed and the end result is nothing less then the grave disaster. Less you consume it will allow more to enjoy and consume the resources.

Guilt The Controlling Factor

2009-01-11T22:22:00.000-08:00

Our actions are some in our control but most of the time we are not able to manage our acts. Any omission on our part is result of our thinking process at that particular moment. We all fall prey to scrutiny of right and wrong in all our actions. The on going journey expose us to glorious and tragic paths at different junctures. we cant hold our ventures by getting over conscious in our approach.
To control the repetitions of our acts where we believe that there is need of introspection,guilt is an effective mechanism to control our actions. Guilt monitor us from extending the mistakes and allow an individual to correct means and way to avoid the repetition. Guilt is first step towards balancing our behavior and we must not feel bad always for this state of mind. Only we must not fall in to trap self denial and depression for the guilt.

Take Life As it Comes

2009-01-06T21:37:00.000-08:00

Any beginning brings hope and optimism in life and may or may not trigger some changes in life. We envisage our future with new zeal and fervor to conquer new milestones to fulfill our dreams. The whole process allow us to give some direction and structuring to our efforts and ultimately enhance our focus on our efforts to reach at our destination. All new resolutions are tools to rejuvenate our resolve to success and achievement.
We may strive to materialize our dreams but realities are always project the life in different frame. Take life as it comes is the right mantra for living a balanced life in these testing times. Temptations,provocations ,ambitions ,dynamisms, egos all will enforce us to accelerate our pace more then the desired limits but holding to our limitations is the sole effective approach for a balanced life style.
Keep on moving with taking along all that comes our way will make our journey filled with all joy and satisfaction. Peace of mind is off shoot of our gesture and need to be understood before it really experienced in our life.

Fatal Attractions

2008-12-11T21:17:00.000-08:00

Attractions are natural in our life and we need to learn to live with their presence. We are living in highly materialistic dynamic and exotic world and being a human being falling to these attractions is understandable. Some of us are attracted to money,status,recognition and other may be a individual,relation,beauty or personalities. This is on going phenomena and attractions keeps on changing its colors with age ,circumstances and peer pressures. Rejections and denials only complicated the issues and only add to confusion,depression as well as frustrations. Three are no age,gender regional or religious boundaries to curtail the impact and influence of these attractions. The intensity with which we may approach to them varies depending on our personality but no one can ignore the overwhelming role they play in our lives. Our mind set,state of health , ego levels and temperament reflect the influence to our obsessions.

Important is to visualize when the attraction is turning in to obsession and may be treated as fatal. The simple solution is first of all to avoid the denial and accept that we need to face these attraction omnipresent in and around us. Other rational approach is to divert our energy and focus to other attractions when we start realizing that one is becoming fatal due to our obsession with it. Fortunately all obsessions are short lived and some Patience allow us to die its own death. Remember all minor or big fatal attractions are detrimental to our peaceful,prosperous and healthy existence.

Morning Bliss

2008-12-10T22:23:00.000-08:00

In early morning time you feel like in heaven,this is wonderful gift of the nature. This is the period of complete harmony between you and your environment. It's the time which signify hope, optimism and progress. The aura of rising sun engulf us in sense of freshness to the limits. Calmness overpowers are fears and apprehensions, our out look diverted to new progressive turn. Morning bliss indicates the victory of light over darkness. Sound mesmerize us in its sweet melody and for a few moments we are in absolute peace with ourselves..

How many of us enjoy this privilege given by the almighty to us? There are umpteen excuses for not experiencing this audacious journey. Priorities are creation of mind set and key is to change our mind set for enjoying life to the fullest. The real joy of this precious life can be appreciated with exploring all glorious aspects around us. Nothing is free in this world and to gain something we need to sacrifice something. The choice is ours to set our priorities and self awakening only will provide us the right direction.

We as an individual must strive to enjoy this blessing from nature and once we get accustomed to this experience ,life will be more joyful with internal peace and mental stability, Be assured to get a new glow on your face . Improvement in fitness levels is the pleasant off shoot of this experience.

Enigmatic To Core.

2008-12-09T23:13:00.000-08:00

We Human beings are enigmatic in their general behavior. Its may be due to insecurity or other valid or non valid reasons. We all say that we like an open book but invariably this may not be the fact. There are circumstance where intention is not to behave in this manner but our acts give the different indications.

The strong factor responsible for our being enigmatic is that we love to hold on to things around us. Other aspect is to give “surprises”in our dealing with other people. Even when we project our personality as open and transparent it also largely with some purpose and intention. Interestingly we consistently observe the moves of others before opening our cards. Our perceptions to vulnerability push us to be a enigmatic personality and manifest in isolation. It has adverse impact on our relations and acceptance levels

Introspection and feedback from friends, colleagues and spouse can help us in being getting more awareness about our conduct. we need to avoid our temptation to carried away by the gains for being enigmatic.

Life After Death

2008-12-08T22:23:00.000-08:00

when we take the decisions with over consciousness approach it shows our tendency of not visualizing beyond a limit. We are prone to get entangled in “if” and “buts” and ultimately miss the bus. There are situations those demands action without deep analysis and rationality. There is a life after death will make us brave with dignity to conquer any obstacles.

The grooming of individual plays a critical role in his or her style of decision making in personal and as well as professional life. Over the period we develop the tendency to avoid to take anything on our head. Mere permutation and combination only land us in acting upon in simple situations in for ordinary out comes.

Let start adopting the approach where we learn to listen from heart in some highly complex and stupendous challenges for getting more then ordinary results. Decisions taken with taking all known risks only carry us to the path of glory. Remember roads all ready traveled lead us to known horizon in all possibilities.

Living Dangerously

2008-12-03T23:47:00.000-08:00

Life has more tilted towards the uncertainties then certainty these days .You are always living on edge and fear is overpowering our thoughts. The audacity of threat is immense and gradually starting effecting our normal lives. The confidences levels for all has taken a deep dip and way out seems to be difficult. Whole world is a danger zone for a common man and race for survival was never that hard. Fear has transformed in to negativity and all of us precarious to never ending pessimistic behavior.

When we create fear for others we also make ourselves also vulnerable to fear and if we indulge in demonstrating threat to others it also has impact on our confidence level as well. Negative energy can penetrate and propagate more swiftly then positive energy in us. Once we surrender and channelize our thought process towards hate and destruction there is no coming back from this state of mind. Handling terror with terror Strategy results in generating more terror.

The only answer is to refine our thinking process to avoid getting victim to biasness and vested interests and develop the strength to face the truth and realties around us. Our journey from being animal to human beings is still not reached to the desirable limits. We must be optimistic for enlightening our thinking based on better values and beliefs rather on perceptions.

Balancing Internality and externality

2008-11-16T23:32:00.000-08:00

Internality is related to people having extra ordinary faith on their capabilities. They are the one who believe in themselves and take all good or bad in any outcome on their head. The self confidence is the significant and prominent trait in people high on the internality. They believe in execution with taking onus on personal accountability in all outcomes related to them. They are self driven and keep on looking to take lead for showing their competence to other. They are loner and find it difficult to get along in building the relations. People who are high on internality are bound to prone to frustrations and depression. They are over rational and for failure in life they take all the blame on them selves. So some times our strengths can hamper us to conduct our life in balanced manner.

Externality is visible when we associate our success or failure in life to factors which we believe are out of individual control. Our dependency on others is extremely high for all the ventures relevant to us. Circumstances, situations, luck and other individuals are integrated part to share the success and failures in our life. Our self confidence depends on factors extended to others. When we are high on externality it may project us looser or person low on confidence

For being more effective we must balance both externality and internality. Extreme of both is damaging. For balancing this trait the proven method is self introspection for all the out comes to reach to valid reasons. Even if we are master in all spheres the external factors play it role in our success and failure. Capabilities and competence is the prime factor to change the circumstances in our favour.

Mind Games

2008-11-14T22:54:00.001-08:00

We tend to be articulate in our conversations with other most of the times. Interestingly over the period it also lead us being manipulated in our expression. The originality of thoughts is overpowered by the layers of diplomatic flavors. Our mind is consistently over work to facilitate us for deliverance of our preference .Over consciousness become the hall mark of our communication and we put extra effort to pin down others for satisfying our ego. This phenomena is due to insecurity ,arrogance and may be due to the prevailing circumstances. Mind games reflects our ability to counter the perceived threats and strength to capture the opportunities.

The interpersonal relation and net working is based on trust and when we are over indulge in mind games to project our self ,there are chances of getting exposed. If we are obsessive in camouflaging our personality and character , our smartness is vulnerable to scrutiny. We need to true our self at least in situation where we are not affected immensely for our status or ego. Mind games increase our stress as our conduct is not in harmony with our true self. Keep life simple and straight ,we may not need any mind games for being effective in meeting our personal or professionals challenges.

Personal Hours

2008-11-11T01:39:00.000-08:00

Our preoccupation denies us from giving some time to enrich our thinking process. We all need some process to rejuvenate our energy levels. The concept of personal hours is an excellent method to up lift our spirits. Idea is to devote some time in a day for individual counselling. When we are in self confinement for some period, it is time for deep focus and our commitment to relax.

The ideal time is the early morning hours as the environment has all the freshness to cool our mind. We need to fix the exact hours and frequency for keeping good discipline to take full benefits of this activity. For further structuring the period is specifically bifurcated in small parts to focus on area of preference like relationships, occupations, self improvement, future plans other matter concerning us. In this exercise we are raising the issues and only we are the solution provider. Once we are competent to resolve our issues the next step will lead us to initial stage of mediation and spirituality.

Experiment with the idea it may give some direction to be a better human being. We are holding the key for our self improvement and only contention is to evolves means for it

Can Life be Different?

2008-11-10T20:50:00.000-08:00

The day starts with typical monotonous activities for all of us. The day in day out we are trapped in the vicious circle for survival. Sometimes when we sit and introspect we find our self in long tunnel and only option with us is to keep on follow the set norms, lifestyles till our existence. Even when we share our troubles with others we realise that all are in same boat and no one is on smooth track. The intensity of challenges may vary depending on individual’s status but story is same for all. We die many deaths before our ultimate journey by ignoring our inspirations, due to emotional fall outs, loosing values and getting in compromised state without will and so on.

Life can be different even with these on going realties. The mantra is digging the moments of joy in all affairs of life. To start with at least we can throw different prospective to all aspects those are affecting us in day to day life for treating matters differently. We must take stand on issues where we have the leverage to hold on, means matters in our individual control. Managing our own inspirations with aplomb and creating opportunities to live same life with different flavours. Follow others physically but keep your mind open to your personalised, cherished thoughts. We have got only one life, live with your terms even if you need to disguise your true colours to others

Luck The hidden Treasure

2008-11-04T21:24:00.000-08:00

Luck is the hidden factor which plays an important role in managing the stress. Its a package without any limiting conditions, all depends on choice for giving value in our affairs. It shows us the way to think beyond logics sometimes and facilitate in experimentations.

With or without our intent luck is a phenomenon accepted by all of us. Its a trigger that push us to unknown horizons and we are encouraged to take chances. Luck allow us to balance the rationality with irrationality for more seasoned approach.

Over dependence on luck is detrimental but it help us in venturing for our dreams. The foresightedness depends on our capacity to challenge the facts and luck is there to play its role. Another interesting aspect is that in case we are not able to taste the success the luck act an ventilator to ease down our frustration,we can treat it as bouncing board. Its better to blame the unknown factor for our setbacks to manage life in more harmonious way. Use the luck factor for more positive approach and to strengthen our belief in our decision making.

Hope against Hope

2008-11-01T03:44:00.000-07:00

The demanding moments in life put us on the edge and there are times when we are not able to visualize any ray of hope. We call it dead end and life seems to reach at the hopeless juncture. Uncertainties and complexities make us susceptible to extreme negativity and that is something natural. But same time the situation of desperation opens the doors for some headway.

Any circumstances where you have nothing to loose lead us to an opening that what ever we get, it is gain only. When we are at scratch then we cannot loose more by all possibilities. This phenomenon is very relevant to make us positive in extreme circumstances. The anticipation against nothing will divert us to optimism means you are at bottom and any positive trend is an increase from zero only.

When we stretch our thinking to ultimate negative out comes, we become more fearless and it manifest in being positive even in testing times. More in your hand more insecure you feel and the moment we start realising that there is nothing to be loose at my end our fears vanished. In life there are times when we need to look forward to orient our thinking in positive means by creating solutions from our thought process only as we are mere spectator to happenings around us.

Religion in You

2008-10-14T03:09:00.000-07:00

We may be the follower of various religions but there is a religion inside us. Our religion is may be due to circumstances, personal or social reasons. The religion is source of faith, trust, and security and provides us the solace to face the challenges thrown on us by the happenings in our life. It may be the sole factor for giving us the identity and we look forward to religion for directions in case of any dilemmas.

Religion also influences us to unilateral and dogmatic thinking, the reasoning, and logic sometimes become susceptible. We tend to start accepting all the events in the religious flavor. When the influence is very strong we are myopic in evaluating the facts and may be with all the good intentions.

Belief inside us is the real religion and we need to follow it first then any other established one. Our soul always guides correctly on evil and good, heaven and hell. We as individual come first and religion come later. Avoid marginalizing your intellect on orthodox thinking influenced by particular religion or sect. If we are religious in our thoughts it will help us to follow our religion in more meaningful manner. We as an individual first must build the profound faith in our own values and belief for being eligible to be a good religious human being.

Be critical and not cynical

2008-10-09T00:53:00.000-07:00

Criticality is associated with analysis and evaluation and being critical is a healthy process. When we are critical it relate to our judiciousness for assessment of situation. It also depicts our inclination to explore the matter in depth, which help us in totality to gain more knowledge and awareness. In this process we are keen not to take things on their face value and like to build our own prospective to matters around us. Our thinking process get more seasoned with continuous and persistent questioning. In our network of people we are not taken for granted as we can stand on put forward our opinion with all the confidence. We put into practice the openness with appraising the circumstances.

Cynical is the state of extreme pessimism and negativity in evaluating the matters and facts we may deal in our life style. We are closed in our thinking and follow only the tunnel view in related or non-related matters. The stage is of complete darkness with extreme rigidity in our mind. We are obsessive to a point of view and refrain from accepting any flexibility. The perception of absolute hopelessness prevails over us and options seem to be dried up.

The interesting aspect is our understanding regarding criticality and cynicism is very ordinary. Most of the time we are not aware when we have crossed the dividing line of criticality to cynicism. We become slave to our over possessive negative thoughts and with time we are only propagating the cynicism in our views and opinion. Try to introspect the personal opinions to limit the compulsive behavior. Don’t carried away by egos and self-centered approach. Start accepting dissimilar views for showing better receptivity.

The Heart Overpowers the Mind

2008-10-06T02:59:00.000-07:00

There is a constant on going fight between heart and mind inside us. The numerous theories are developed and discussed in this reference in past, present. Point of acrimony is who has the edge, heart or mind in controlling our conduct. Person can live with dead brain for quite substantial time and without heartbeat the story is finished immediately, it shows that our life is ultimately on the mercy of our heart.

We hear our heart first and then message is passed on to mind for evaluating the thoughts, data or facts, so all initiations is from heart only. All the senses carry their meaning from feelings and feelings are nothing but the voice of our heart. Heart is our soft ware and mind is hard ware in our body. So without soft ware the body doesn’t stand for any worthwhile existence.

Listen to your heart, even with best of your efforts mind may not able to control the heart. Its illusion that we can have command on our thoughts and are able to manage them being more rational and mature but in reality it never happens. Heart always speaks truth and only mind put layers of manipulations and maneuvering on our thinking. When we are not true at that moment mind tries to control our heart and predominately it always face the defeat. The guarded behavior on our part also reflects the phenomenon where heart is not pushing us to go all ends up in managing the particular situations.

Remove the façade of superficial persona where we live with double standards and go by what your heart say. It will help us in managing our self in more genuine environment based on truth and straightforwardness. Realize the overpowering presence of your thoughts coming directly from the core of your heart. Use your mind to mange and not to dictate, life can be wonderful.

Divergent Accepted wisdom

2008-10-04T01:40:00.000-07:00

Following the established norms requires the convergent thinking process. We do as told to us or perceived by us in our prevailing environment. Telling in simple terms, adopting the straight line without any deviations in our thinking or execution. We are captive to conventional paths for more predictable out comes. No questions are raised and emphasis is to maintain status quo to the possible best. In discussions some of us may sound radical in our approach but unfortunately this fervour remains confined to discussions tables only. “Out of box thinking” sails only in conversations to impress others. Wisdom is related to typecast knowledge; learning’s for most of us and deviating thought process is low on acceptance. Conservative mind sets are reflection of rigidity in our outlook.

Divergent accepted wisdom parlance to openness in our personality. It shows our strength to raise questions and invite fresh thoughts in our execution and thinking. when we like to be different we need to explore at depth for being more effective resulting in consistent flow of ideas and facts.” why” is more prominent then “ yes “ in our normal communications. Conflicts are created to improve us further by gaining more knowledge through shaking the established norms.

We can master this trait in our normal routine if we start mending our ways to handle the issues with non conventional approach. Start putting query to all our acts in personal and working life. It will at least force us to think differently and with time execution can also be the part of this process. Your are not there to change the world around you but you can make your mark as pioneer in challenging the taboos affecting your wisdom to grow. Common man can live life distinctively different with open mind. Wisdom is never been privilege only for rich,intelligent and famous, we all can demonstrate it with divergent thinking.

Play Safe Results in Mediocrity

2008-09-30T21:14:00.000-07:00

No Pain No Gain”, we all understood this but we may put our self in the trap of always playing safe. Over conscious mind always play safe and it only lead to mediocrity. The middle path approach is sign of escapism and we as a person also become very predictable with this kind of thinking process.

The choice of career is an excellent example of play safe approach. We rely on decisions where minimum risk is involved in opting for preference in our occupations. When we take decisions with minimum risks the gains are also average. The normal satisfaction levels are achieved after thrusting all the efforts due to typical adopted career options. Without being adventures pace of growth is also not substantial. We may keep on blaming the circumstances or fate for our plight but the reality is known to us. To acquire more knowledge and insight it again ask for exposure to unknown territories. Playing safe develops us only being a hollow person with low on knowledge and learning’s in life.

To maintain relations we are never in capacity to make all happy every time. We drag the relations and at few junctures over conscious in telling our feelings to save the relations. Emotions are debarred from conversations to play safe and there is tendency to mingle only with known group of acquainted people. In expressing love also we play safe so that other person may not take us for granted. Our network is also limited and typically confined to stereotyped individuals. Our dressing sense or choice of attire is also is the victim of our over conscious approach. The food we take is again following the same stream.

Taking more risk is mantra to expect more gains, playing always secure and safe can only culminate at expected and predictable results. Exigent tasks put us on exciting frame of mind. We must avoid getting influenced by fear of failure in new venture; failures are as critical as success to enjoy the life to its best. Make surprises the acceptable part in all our endeavors, it will help us to overcome the mediocrity in all the fields related with us.

Celebrations swings the Mood

2008-09-26T00:23:00.000-07:00

Celebrations are great source for uplifting our mood. Even achievement of trivial nature can be the reason for great celebrations. The few moments of mutual enjoyment can rejuvenate us remarkably. Monotony is part of any venture and it necessitates us to look for means and ways for creating energy, enthusiasm. Milestones are conquered by all of us irrespective of their importance or significance and important is to learn to celebrate. Even birthday and anniversary is an occasion of stupendous magnitude, Let it celebrate with great pomp and show and feel like being at the top of world. We keep on looking for major reason for celebrations which rarely come and in this process miss these opportunities of enjoyment.

For managing our frame of mind there are no set rules and no therapy that provide panacea from all mental disorders. We are under consistent pressures to to remain balanced in day to day conduct in our life. Joy, cheerfulness and sense of humour are manifestation of present state of mind and celebrations help us in developing that platform, where we can flourish these traits. So look for the moments to celebrate whether small or big. We indulge in celebrations due to our self interest for getting the likelihood for enjoyment and breaking the monotony from our life styles. Grandeur of celebrations carries no meaning but keep on indulging in regular frequency is critical to refresh ourselves

“I Know All Syndrome”

2008-09-25T01:45:00.000-07:00

The syndrome of "I know all” is reflected in most of us. In some, it is very prominent and in others it may be at reasonable level. The amazing fact is that perpetually we are not aware regarding the presence of this in our personality. The range of this syndrome is widespread from housewife to the top notch professional. Intensity varies from occasional showoff to permanent demonstration. We all deny it but with time there is always a possibility of having influence on us. Age is also no bar and we can observe this in kid and naturally in old warhorses as well.

The fallout of this syndrome is palpable to all of us. It overpowers our listening skill. We bring to a standstill our capacity to learning. It projects our personality high on superficial egos and keep on making its impact on relationships. We miss the option to strengthen our network because it can enhance our isolation from people. Our acceptance can only be due to the position and status we hold then respect, admiration.

The strong presence of this syndrome pushes us to a dark tunnel and rigidity is obvious in our behavior. We must introspect our conversations at regular intervals and it will reveal our shortcoming on this aspect. The controlled expression is sign of confidence but if we are not able to ensure it’s over influence in our communications, we may block our wisdom to be a better human being

Individuality The Prime Victim

2008-09-22T21:24:00.000-07:00

We all exist in this world due to our Individuality and interestingly this aspect is ignored by us. All of us are unique and this distinctiveness of ours is always dear to us. Some times due to circumstances and misinterpretation of this aspect, we are not able to give the individuality its appropriate significance.

The gender bias is one of prime factor for compromising on our individuality. We tend to project our personality, which is overwhelmed by our gender then the individual as such. We are human beings first beneath our gender existence and this is profound belief we need to inculcate in our behavior. In relations we are always easily compromise on our personal exclusive character to build or hold on relations. What we are failed to appreciate that all the relations come later and our individuality is the foundation for our involvement in these affairs. The moment we start respecting the each other’s individuality the relations flourish. In working environment our individuality is precarious to ever growing influence of our superiors and to professional achievers. The prevailing culture also sway our identity to merge in surrounding bandwagon. Astoundingly invariably we pursue the lifestyle that is overpowered by situations then driven by our own distinctiveness.

So please hold on to your Individuality and more we hold on to it surely our effectiveness can reach to unimaginable heights. God has made us unique and if we keep on realizing this in our lifestyle we may able to contribute enormously to society and to our own satisfaction. The widespread synergy of humans efforts can lead to better outcome for all

Patience Pays

2008-09-20T02:44:00.000-07:00

Patience is an investment and when we are able to practice it more in our life style it always give us more then what we are expecting .Patience is misunderstood most of the times as weakness or may project us soft. This view point may be relevant for some short period but in long term it doesn’t hold good. The trick is to take the endurance as your strength in resolving the situations and aiming gains in totality for all the persistence.

The jobs, relationships, success and effectiveness generate the circumstances for showing more and more determination to achieve the best. The focus is nothing but our resolve to reach at culmination level for our own satisfaction and it can be only possible with least deviations in our approach. So we are compelled to restrain from reactions and immediate gains.

Tranquillity in our thoughts is our ultimate weapon to conquer the negativity and adversities in our fight for reaching at epitome of all our goals. Avoid in getting in to traps where illusions of fast gains can lead us to wrong conclusions. Time is an essence for healing large scale ills created due to impatience. Keep faith in patience and we may not be looser in any juncture of life and like all other investments in long term it will pay.

Socialise for Refinement

2008-09-13T00:02:00.000-07:00

When we meet different people in course of socialising it provide us the opportunity to learn being spectator to others behaviour. Gatherings are assimilation of personalities with varying traits and observing them is an exciting as well learning experience. As we are putting other people on scrutiny same is applied on us also and ultimately it lead us to refine ourselves.

Socialising is the platform where we depict our styles and at the same time get influence with approach and traits of fellow members. Predominately the socialising is voluntarily done activity that allows us to put on track to discover vivid attitudes existing in the society around us. The other interesting facet is we mingle in the group of our liking and where we believe that acceptance levels are up to the expected norms. This all manifest in high receptivity and readiness for change.

In context of socialising if we are conscious on learning from others it can be add and help us stupendously to refine our thoughts. Influences can be good or bad but the moment we are mending our ways the process of socialising is playing its part in altering our behaviours. So keep on socialising and keep in mind that this activity is there not only for building network or relationships but it also playing its part in refining our traits

The Money, Driving the Emotions

2008-09-12T00:53:00.000-07:00

They say money is not everything but yes money is something. Money can create the impact on our emotions. The moments may be difficult to build up but money has the power to generate the situations. Money is to be understood as means in handling the emotions. We can surely influence the people around us with the gestures where our capability to spend play a vital role.

As an individual we all enticed by materialism and money is a critical link for managing the reasonable materialism in our life. The immediate impact of money on relationships and emotions is immense and cannot be denied even if we desire to ignore this aspect. Money can mend the negativity or aversions in our conduct with others.

Money also provides us the feel good factor and we all love to be in euphoric conditions occasionally. Economic hardships confer on us the jolts and money is there to smoothen the bumps, even it may be for the time being. Smiles can be crafted and money always assists us in doing so. If we have means to enhance and sustains the emotions there is no harm in exploiting them to the fullest.

Self Talk

2008-09-06T23:32:00.000-07:00

The best companion of yours is you. The all unanswered questions can find the answers when we talk to ourselves. Self-talk is an excellent practice for self-introspection and to control our emotional outburst. We may not able to open our self even to a very close individual in life and there are situation when we reveal the twofold personality in society and relationships. In these circumstances self-talk can be an excellent ventilator for giving us some comfort.

Always initiate a discussion in your mind regarding any matter, which may be occupying your thoughts or actions. Start developing the habit of conducting the question and answer sessions in the self-talk on the any related topics and matter. The interesting aspect of the self-talk is that you are not able to maneuver or camouflage the realities. In this course we are able to develop the capacity to mend our behavior. All the upheaval to
Put right our thoughts and action is inside us only and it facilitates us to demonstrate the calm and mature face to the out side world.

Self-talk help us to reinforce our beliefs and value. We rarely find the true guide and mentor on whom we can rely for all the support at all times and self-talk is the option always available to us. So practice self-talk and involve in this overwhelmingly to take right decisions, for controlling emotions and last but not least with time getting clarity about the beliefs for which we are existing.

“Allergy to Ambiguity” A Stress Trap

2008-09-05T22:07:00.000-07:00

Why things are not happening as to our expectations, it adds to the anxiety, resulting in more stress. When we are allergic to unpredictability we are more prone to stress. Uncertainty is part of life even with best of our efforts we are bound to face it, but predominately we are ill prepared to mange the haziness in life. Emphasis on over rationality can make us prone to stress, excess dependence on systems has consequential impact on our capacity to handle stress.

In our life situations are build to give us surprises, there is nothing wrong in being very immaculate in our approach to manage circumstances, however you cannot control everything on your own. Exhibiting much confident on our deeds is sign of high internality and diversions on any front perturb us enormously. Aversion to unknown horizons is indicative of our tendency to get trapped in stress.

Start enjoying some vagueness, volatility is thrill in itself and avoid following the obvious path. Bring Resilience in your personality and it may help in managing day-to-day stress more effectively. Don’t be evasive to chaos and accept unpredictability also as the part of life. Mental readiness for unknown is a time tested mode for managing the avoidable stress.

Unlearn to Learn

2008-09-02T04:31:00.000-07:00

For developing the learning habit in our personal and professional matters we need to first understand the concept of unlearning. The biggest block in learning is our conviction to the existing approach and life style. You cannot learn anything worthwhile till there is an acceptance for acquiring of some new and fresh inputs.

We have strong tendency to stick to our self-defined values and thinking patterns. For getting acquainted to unlearning process we are required to question the status quo and it’s a slow process. Acquiring something new is much easier then avoiding the existing fervors. Unlearning give us pain and force us to capitulate present thought process. Unlearning divulge in opening the mind set so that fresh notions can be registered

Learning is key for survival in all spheres of Life and for being an effective learner, unlearning is stepping stone. When we say we have learned from our mistakes ,it connote to unlearning only. So unlearning is diversion from rigidity to openness. Once we are able to leave behind the burden of past impressions the stage is ready for consistent learning. The environment and circumstances of an individual influence the capacity and capability to unlearn but we all struggle to break the shackles of inflexibility, which is key to ignite the learning process.

Pampering Yourself

2008-09-01T23:36:00.000-07:00

To boost our self-confidence, it’s vital to pamper our self. We as an individual aspire for getting best of best in life. Avoid unnecessarily controlling your desires and indulge in fulfilling all the wishes. We are conscious in putting our efforts to make others comfortable for upholding relations or for emotional needs. In this process we tend to ignore our own needs and may be not able to give the appropriate priority to self-necessities.

Pamper your self with best of attires; don’t hesitate to get involve in pursuance of even luxurious habits. Feed your taste buds with exotic food occasionally and buy worldly commodities to show off. Build the fitness level to make others envy and be in a company, which pertains to class in itself. Enjoy the voyage of your liking for managing the stress and to explore the world of your preference. Play the music of your choice and dance to the glory as and when you get chance.

It’s you, that is most important and when you are living for your self with reasonable satisfaction it reflects in self-confidence. You need to pamper your self before giving this opportunity to someone

Passion, The sole criteria for Glory

2008-08-26T21:45:00.000-07:00

Passion is fuel, which put us on accelerated mode in all our engagements. Life consumed in mundane affairs results in giving us the only average gains. The circumstances influence the individual’s stride to pursue his or her passion. It’s a vicious circle as once we compromise in our endeavor to follow our passionate pursuit; we may spend all our efforts in achieving the mediocre consequences. Passion has synergic impact on our efforts to marching on path of glory.

The race for survival hampers and dampens the fire of passion but our mind set plays the voluminous role in igniting or diffusing the passion inside us. Life provides us the opportunity in one or other aspect where we can demonstrate our endurance for being passionate for something. Look for those prospects, which may facilitate us to show our enthusiasm for meeting our passionate aspirations.

Passion is epitome for achieving glory, when mind and heart are unison for trailing any objective; stage is set for exhibiting the passion. We are hyper to look beyond any limits and the moment the fence of limitation is shattered the success is obvious outcome. In all ventures passion is threshold energy ready to be exploded and which ultimately provide us the real sense of achievement.

Look for a Mentor

2008-08-19T23:43:00.000-07:00

No one is perfect and there are situations when all our moves to refine our intellect or thoughts are exhausted. We seek the direction to achieve landmarks and mentor is a dependable source to facilitate us in this endeavor.

Mentor can act as a bouncing board so that we are on the right path with absolute focus. Formalizing the relation of friendship lead to the emergence of mentorship, which is high on respect and receptivity. The faith and acceptance are key drivers in recognizing a mentor. Interpretation of process of mentoring is to look upward and that means we are seeker and humble in our approach.

Mentoring is wrongly understood and elucidated if it overpowers our own persona. We need not to confine mentoring only in professional relations and if it all it is confined only for professional purpose it will not sustain far along. Mentor influences us first as an individual and then may be professionally. Mentoring is relevant in every facet of life due to complexities and challenges of modern life styles.

For better focus and comfort let allow some one to be our mentor and recognizing some one as mentor is overwhelmingly depends on our choice and preferences. Mentor will allow us to reduce our burden to mange the ever-demanding expectations from life.

Listening skills Imperative For Relations Building

2008-08-19T03:55:00.000-07:00

Listening skills are paramount for building Relations. Listening requires patience and perseverance to allow other to put forward his/her viewpoint. We need to learn to control our emotions to improve our listening skills. We are reactive by nature for self-defense or for dominance in our conversations.

By listening others we provide an opportunity to them for better comfort and understanding. All of us are looking for an opportunity to ventilate and if somebody provides it, the relationships start taking shape. The intricacies of relations can be managed effectively with just listening only. Good listening allow us to comprehend the personalities of other and which is relevant in building the relations.

Bad listener struggle to build and sustain relations and acceptance among others is always susceptible. Bad listener over a period develops illusions and misconception in relations, as their understanding in relations is questionable.

It sound easy to be a good listener but demands resilience from individuals prospective. Good listeners depict more open personality and which can be a base for long lasting relationship. Controlling our temptations to indulge in unwarranted conversations can help us in strengthening the listening skills.

Being alone, it’s Wonderful

2008-08-12T04:26:00.000-07:00

We all are loners and when we are with our own company its wonderful feeling. Loneliness is an opportunity to explore our thoughts and perceptions. These are moments of pause and an opportunity to accompany your self. The thoughts are pure and true, as we need not to pretend.

Indulge in self-talk to introspect and to discover the hidden part of the personality. When we are alone mentally as well physically the stage is set for complete freedom and space. When we start enjoying alone its never boring and if we in this status for long we may get hooked to loneliness.

Accompanying self-save us from emotional disasters and we are able to demonstrate, develop the best in us.Invariably we look forward for personal space in life to challenge our thinking to deliver the best to the world. We must keep some time in a day for our self, it will help us in developing better focus to conquer the challenging milestones in all aspects of our life. Being alone is not a connotation of remaining aloof from society but an excellent opportunity to rejuvenate our individualistic thought process for achieving all the success.

Creativity Leads To Positive Energy

2008-08-07T01:13:00.000-07:00

When we are inclined to involve in something new it results in making us excited. The excitement is a stage for positive energy. Monotony is a breeding ground for negativity and any repeated task; work or assignment is intimidation to positive energy. Dullness overpowers us in predictable situations and our mind set reflects the rigidity.

We can think divergently in performing the mundane tasks to highly complicated tasks.
Cooking a new dish, having different Hairstyle, changing the interior of home or office, all these activities provide us the opportunities to innovate. Even in handling the relationships the new ways and means freshen the bond of companionship.

When we start exploring and executing new ideas and thinking in our normal trivial rituals it help us in being positive. Any new venture demands collaboration, exploration, trust and zeal to accomplish it, which compel us to be positive.

Creativity is not only associated with drastic changes, even small –small incremental changes around us lead to excitement, enthusiasm. We all are creative and the key factor is to change our orientation for thinking differently and the end result is that we are more positive.

Self- constraint the Real Meditation

2008-08-04T02:58:00.000-07:00

Controlling our senses is in itself is a kind of meditation. Situations provoke us to react in adverse manner in particular circumstances but exhibiting restrain is the real challenge. Temptations and provocations are there to provoke and we keep on fighting in our endeavors to restrain from them. Its not easy and our mind keep on wavering till we control our thinking and thoughts.

Enlightening our thinking to a better and broader prospective is critical in observing the self-constraint in normal life style. No one is perfect but at the same time we can distinguish the wiser individual from ordinary by his or her conduct. Some times glamour, money, emotions and other attractions press us to succumb to their influence and we struggle to over come them.

The best approach to achieve the Self-constraint is Self Talk. When we are consistently indulged in self-talk it facilitate us in questioning our act and omissions resulting in better control. Being a spectator observing others conduct is also an excellent mean to re- look in to our own reactions. We become wiser by learning from others mistakes. Be critical and avoid being cynical to learn from the situations.

The taming the mind to our preferred instructions is meditation and we all individuals strive to move in this direction for better control on our acts.

Marriage and Product Life Cycle a simliar Path

2008-07-31T05:15:00.000-07:00

Development

The stage for staring with only getting acquainted to each other. Common interest, personality and position is base for taking it to a step forward

Strategy

Look beyond Initial influences and evaluate the prospectives for the long innings

Introduction

The stage is for exploration and the anxiety is high. The expectations from each other are low and endeavour is to make impression. Both partners make efforts to promote the strengths and qualities of each other.

Strategy

Prepare you self to face the conflicting views and to be flexible to create space for each other

Growth
The relationship takes another step, every aspect of companionship look rosy. Expectations from each other start to take further leap and euphoria is around for meeting the future milestones.

Strategy

Start understanding each other as different Individuals.

Maturity
Wake call from the real facts for building the relation ship. Preferences have changed, all that was sounding great start hurting. Stage is set to face the hard times in taking the relationship further

Strategy

Make effort to Appreciate the strengths of the partner as compare to others

Decline
Last stage as relationship is on verge of taking down turn. Liking has taken shape of disliking and efforts are on to sustain the relations named marriage

Strategy

Rejuvenate your relationship by revisiting you era of Development and Introduction once a while.

We all need to build the strategies which can be effective in different stages of marriage life cycle. Uniform approach in all the phases will not help us to sustain the beautiful relation of marriage

Adaptability and Compromise

2008-07-31T00:10:00.000-07:00

Adaptability is critical for survival and moment we are rigid in our approach it’s the beginning of turmoil. Adaptability demands change and change is always painful. It asks for flexibility, diversity and above all the adjustments in life. We all are comfortable in living in the status Quo and any incremental or drastic alteration results in minor or major disturbance. We may not able to maintain the unidirectional style constantly. Adaptability is key for growth irrespective of our position and status.

Compromise is surrendering to the situations and to sacrifice one’s aspiration, desires and dreams. This is the state where circumstances have overpowered us and we have become slave to it. Compromise demonstrates the helplessness in our gestures and disseminates the incompetence. We can camouflage our character by pleading the adjustment factor but reality is compromise shows our tendency to concede to the existing state of affairs

Adapt but not compromise otherwise it will marginalise our personality and character. Adaptability is smartness and compromise is thoughtlessness. Adhere to your values even in demanding situations and adapt to hold on and not for compromising.

Faith Tackles Stress

2008-07-26T01:01:00.000-07:00

Faith means when we accept the things on their face value. Faith is great healer as it is the situation of complete submission. We feel comfortable and relax in this state of mind. When we are over rational in our approach, it results in adding more complexities.

Faith provides us the sense of security in our mind and we feel more confident, assured about our deeds. Faith gives us hope and energy to overcome from dead ends.
Faith bolsters our belief on our convictions and values and we are ready for another pursuit even after frequent failures in our ventures.

Faith is not confined only to Religion and God; it is relevant in all gestures and routines of our normal life. Understanding of faith is related to our own confidence in relationships, conduct and lifestyle. Faith is driver which keeps on pushing us in any hopeless situation and ramification of this is the emergence of positive energy

Faith is an effective stress buster and it nullifies the negativism from our thoughts. Stress is the outcome of over depends on rationality for managing the unpredictable events in Life. Have Faith, everything will become predictable and life can be stress free