Play Safe Results in Mediocrity

No Pain No Gain”, we all understood this but we may put our self in the trap of always playing safe. Over conscious mind always play safe and it only lead to mediocrity. The middle path approach is sign of escapism and we as a person also become very predictable with this kind of thinking process.

The choice of career is an excellent example of play safe approach. We rely on decisions where minimum risk is involved in opting for preference in our occupations. When we take decisions with minimum risks the gains are also average. The normal satisfaction levels are achieved after thrusting all the efforts due to typical adopted career options. Without being adventures pace of growth is also not substantial. We may keep on blaming the circumstances or fate for our plight but the reality is known to us. To acquire more knowledge and insight it again ask for exposure to unknown territories. Playing safe develops us only being a hollow person with low on knowledge and learning’s in life.

To maintain relations we are never in capacity to make all happy every time. We drag the relations and at few junctures over conscious in telling our feelings to save the relations. Emotions are debarred from conversations to play safe and there is tendency to mingle only with known group of acquainted people. In expressing love also we play safe so that other person may not take us for granted. Our network is also limited and typically confined to stereotyped individuals. Our dressing sense or choice of attire is also is the victim of our over conscious approach. The food we take is again following the same stream.

Taking more risk is mantra to expect more gains, playing always secure and safe can only culminate at expected and predictable results. Exigent tasks put us on exciting frame of mind. We must avoid getting influenced by fear of failure in new venture; failures are as critical as success to enjoy the life to its best. Make surprises the acceptable part in all our endeavors, it will help us to overcome the mediocrity in all the fields related with us.

Celebrations swings the Mood

Celebrations are great source for uplifting our mood. Even achievement of trivial nature can be the reason for great celebrations. The few moments of mutual enjoyment can rejuvenate us remarkably. Monotony is part of any venture and it necessitates us to look for means and ways for creating energy, enthusiasm. Milestones are conquered by all of us irrespective of their importance or significance and important is to learn to celebrate. Even birthday and anniversary is an occasion of stupendous magnitude, Let it celebrate with great pomp and show and feel like being at the top of world. We keep on looking for major reason for celebrations which rarely come and in this process miss these opportunities of enjoyment.

For managing our frame of mind there are no set rules and no therapy that provide panacea from all mental disorders. We are under consistent pressures to to remain balanced in day to day conduct in our life. Joy, cheerfulness and sense of humour are manifestation of present state of mind and celebrations help us in developing that platform, where we can flourish these traits. So look for the moments to celebrate whether small or big. We indulge in celebrations due to our self interest for getting the likelihood for enjoyment and breaking the monotony from our life styles. Grandeur of celebrations carries no meaning but keep on indulging in regular frequency is critical to refresh ourselves

“I Know All Syndrome”

The syndrome of "I know all” is reflected in most of us. In some, it is very prominent and in others it may be at reasonable level. The amazing fact is that perpetually we are not aware regarding the presence of this in our personality. The range of this syndrome is widespread from housewife to the top notch professional. Intensity varies from occasional showoff to permanent demonstration. We all deny it but with time there is always a possibility of having influence on us. Age is also no bar and we can observe this in kid and naturally in old warhorses as well.


The fallout of this syndrome is palpable to all of us. It overpowers our listening skill. We bring to a standstill our capacity to learning. It projects our personality high on superficial egos and keep on making its impact on relationships. We miss the option to strengthen our network because it can enhance our isolation from people. Our acceptance can only be due to the position and status we hold then respect, admiration.

The strong presence of this syndrome pushes us to a dark tunnel and rigidity is obvious in our behavior. We must introspect our conversations at regular intervals and it will reveal our shortcoming on this aspect. The controlled expression is sign of confidence but if we are not able to ensure it’s over influence in our communications, we may block our wisdom to be a better human being

Individuality The Prime Victim

We all exist in this world due to our Individuality and interestingly this aspect is ignored by us. All of us are unique and this distinctiveness of ours is always dear to us. Some times due to circumstances and misinterpretation of this aspect, we are not able to give the individuality its appropriate significance.

The gender bias is one of prime factor for compromising on our individuality. We tend to project our personality, which is overwhelmed by our gender then the individual as such. We are human beings first beneath our gender existence and this is profound belief we need to inculcate in our behavior. In relations we are always easily compromise on our personal exclusive character to build or hold on relations. What we are failed to appreciate that all the relations come later and our individuality is the foundation for our involvement in these affairs. The moment we start respecting the each other’s individuality the relations flourish. In working environment our individuality is precarious to ever growing influence of our superiors and to professional achievers. The prevailing culture also sway our identity to merge in surrounding bandwagon. Astoundingly invariably we pursue the lifestyle that is overpowered by situations then driven by our own distinctiveness.

So please hold on to your Individuality and more we hold on to it surely our effectiveness can reach to unimaginable heights. God has made us unique and if we keep on realizing this in our lifestyle we may able to contribute enormously to society and to our own satisfaction. The widespread synergy of humans efforts can lead to better outcome for all

Patience Pays

Patience is an investment and when we are able to practice it more in our life style it always give us more then what we are expecting .Patience is misunderstood most of the times as weakness or may project us soft. This view point may be relevant for some short period but in long term it doesn’t hold good. The trick is to take the endurance as your strength in resolving the situations and aiming gains in totality for all the persistence.

The jobs, relationships, success and effectiveness generate the circumstances for showing more and more determination to achieve the best. The focus is nothing but our resolve to reach at culmination level for our own satisfaction and it can be only possible with least deviations in our approach. So we are compelled to restrain from reactions and immediate gains.

Tranquillity in our thoughts is our ultimate weapon to conquer the negativity and adversities in our fight for reaching at epitome of all our goals. Avoid in getting in to traps where illusions of fast gains can lead us to wrong conclusions. Time is an essence for healing large scale ills created due to impatience. Keep faith in patience and we may not be looser in any juncture of life and like all other investments in long term it will pay.

Socialise for Refinement

When we meet different people in course of socialising it provide us the opportunity to learn being spectator to others behaviour. Gatherings are assimilation of personalities with varying traits and observing them is an exciting as well learning experience. As we are putting other people on scrutiny same is applied on us also and ultimately it lead us to refine ourselves.

Socialising is the platform where we depict our styles and at the same time get influence with approach and traits of fellow members. Predominately the socialising is voluntarily done activity that allows us to put on track to discover vivid attitudes existing in the society around us. The other interesting facet is we mingle in the group of our liking and where we believe that acceptance levels are up to the expected norms. This all manifest in high receptivity and readiness for change.

In context of socialising if we are conscious on learning from others it can be add and help us stupendously to refine our thoughts. Influences can be good or bad but the moment we are mending our ways the process of socialising is playing its part in altering our behaviours. So keep on socialising and keep in mind that this activity is there not only for building network or relationships but it also playing its part in refining our traits

The Money, Driving the Emotions

They say money is not everything but yes money is something. Money can create the impact on our emotions. The moments may be difficult to build up but money has the power to generate the situations. Money is to be understood as means in handling the emotions. We can surely influence the people around us with the gestures where our capability to spend play a vital role.

As an individual we all enticed by materialism and money is a critical link for managing the reasonable materialism in our life. The immediate impact of money on relationships and emotions is immense and cannot be denied even if we desire to ignore this aspect. Money can mend the negativity or aversions in our conduct with others.

Money also provides us the feel good factor and we all love to be in euphoric conditions occasionally. Economic hardships confer on us the jolts and money is there to smoothen the bumps, even it may be for the time being. Smiles can be crafted and money always assists us in doing so. If we have means to enhance and sustains the emotions there is no harm in exploiting them to the fullest.

Self Talk

The best companion of yours is you. The all unanswered questions can find the answers when we talk to ourselves. Self-talk is an excellent practice for self-introspection and to control our emotional outburst. We may not able to open our self even to a very close individual in life and there are situation when we reveal the twofold personality in society and relationships. In these circumstances self-talk can be an excellent ventilator for giving us some comfort.


Always initiate a discussion in your mind regarding any matter, which may be occupying your thoughts or actions. Start developing the habit of conducting the question and answer sessions in the self-talk on the any related topics and matter. The interesting aspect of the self-talk is that you are not able to maneuver or camouflage the realities. In this course we are able to develop the capacity to mend our behavior. All the upheaval to
Put right our thoughts and action is inside us only and it facilitates us to demonstrate the calm and mature face to the out side world.

Self-talk help us to reinforce our beliefs and value. We rarely find the true guide and mentor on whom we can rely for all the support at all times and self-talk is the option always available to us. So practice self-talk and involve in this overwhelmingly to take right decisions, for controlling emotions and last but not least with time getting clarity about the beliefs for which we are existing.

“Allergy to Ambiguity” A Stress Trap

Why things are not happening as to our expectations, it adds to the anxiety, resulting in more stress. When we are allergic to unpredictability we are more prone to stress. Uncertainty is part of life even with best of our efforts we are bound to face it, but predominately we are ill prepared to mange the haziness in life. Emphasis on over rationality can make us prone to stress, excess dependence on systems has consequential impact on our capacity to handle stress.

In our life situations are build to give us surprises, there is nothing wrong in being very immaculate in our approach to manage circumstances, however you cannot control everything on your own. Exhibiting much confident on our deeds is sign of high internality and diversions on any front perturb us enormously. Aversion to unknown horizons is indicative of our tendency to get trapped in stress.

Start enjoying some vagueness, volatility is thrill in itself and avoid following the obvious path. Bring Resilience in your personality and it may help in managing day-to-day stress more effectively. Don’t be evasive to chaos and accept unpredictability also as the part of life. Mental readiness for unknown is a time tested mode for managing the avoidable stress.

Unlearn to Learn

For developing the learning habit in our personal and professional matters we need to first understand the concept of unlearning. The biggest block in learning is our conviction to the existing approach and life style. You cannot learn anything worthwhile till there is an acceptance for acquiring of some new and fresh inputs.

We have strong tendency to stick to our self-defined values and thinking patterns. For getting acquainted to unlearning process we are required to question the status quo and it’s a slow process. Acquiring something new is much easier then avoiding the existing fervors. Unlearning give us pain and force us to capitulate present thought process. Unlearning divulge in opening the mind set so that fresh notions can be registered

Learning is key for survival in all spheres of Life and for being an effective learner, unlearning is stepping stone. When we say we have learned from our mistakes ,it connote to unlearning only. So unlearning is diversion from rigidity to openness. Once we are able to leave behind the burden of past impressions the stage is ready for consistent learning. The environment and circumstances of an individual influence the capacity and capability to unlearn but we all struggle to break the shackles of inflexibility, which is key to ignite the learning process.

Pampering Yourself

To boost our self-confidence, it’s vital to pamper our self. We as an individual aspire for getting best of best in life. Avoid unnecessarily controlling your desires and indulge in fulfilling all the wishes. We are conscious in putting our efforts to make others comfortable for upholding relations or for emotional needs. In this process we tend to ignore our own needs and may be not able to give the appropriate priority to self-necessities.

Pamper your self with best of attires; don’t hesitate to get involve in pursuance of even luxurious habits. Feed your taste buds with exotic food occasionally and buy worldly commodities to show off. Build the fitness level to make others envy and be in a company, which pertains to class in itself. Enjoy the voyage of your liking for managing the stress and to explore the world of your preference. Play the music of your choice and dance to the glory as and when you get chance.

It’s you, that is most important and when you are living for your self with reasonable satisfaction it reflects in self-confidence. You need to pamper your self before giving this opportunity to someone