Fatal Attractions

Attractions are natural in our life and we need to learn to live with their presence. We are living in highly materialistic dynamic and exotic world and being a human being falling to these attractions is understandable. Some of us are attracted to money,status,recognition and other may be a individual,relation,beauty or personalities. This is on going phenomena and attractions keeps on changing its colors with age ,circumstances and peer pressures. Rejections and denials only complicated the issues and only add to confusion,depression as well as frustrations. Three are no age,gender regional or religious boundaries to curtail the impact and influence of these attractions. The intensity with which we may approach to them varies depending on our personality but no one can ignore the overwhelming role they play in our lives. Our mind set,state of health , ego levels and temperament reflect the influence to our obsessions.


Important is to visualize when the attraction is turning in to obsession and may be treated as fatal. The simple solution is first of all to avoid the denial and accept that we need to face these attraction omnipresent in and around us. Other rational approach is to divert our energy and focus to other attractions when we start realizing that one is becoming fatal due to our obsession with it. Fortunately all obsessions are short lived and some Patience allow us to die its own death. Remember all minor or big fatal attractions are detrimental to our peaceful,prosperous and healthy existence.

Morning Bliss

In early morning time you feel like in heaven,this is wonderful gift of the nature. This is the period of complete harmony between you and your environment. It's the time which signify hope, optimism and progress. The aura of rising sun engulf us in sense of freshness to the limits. Calmness overpowers are fears and apprehensions, our out look diverted to new progressive turn. Morning bliss indicates the victory of light over darkness. Sound mesmerize us in its sweet melody and for a few moments we are in absolute peace with ourselves..

How many of us enjoy this privilege given by the almighty to us? There are umpteen excuses for not experiencing this audacious journey. Priorities are creation of mind set and key is to change our mind set for enjoying life to the fullest. The real joy of this precious life can be appreciated with exploring all glorious aspects around us. Nothing is free in this world and to gain something we need to sacrifice something. The choice is ours to set our priorities and self awakening only will provide us the right direction.

We as an individual must strive to enjoy this blessing from nature and once we get accustomed to this experience ,life will be more joyful with internal peace and mental stability, Be assured to get a new glow on your face . Improvement in fitness levels is the pleasant off shoot of this experience.

Enigmatic To Core.

We Human beings are enigmatic in their general behavior. Its may be due to insecurity or other valid or non valid reasons. We all say that we like an open book but invariably this may not be the fact. There are circumstance where intention is not to behave in this manner but our acts give the different indications.

The strong factor responsible for our being enigmatic is that we love to hold on to things around us. Other aspect is to give “surprises”in our dealing with other people. Even when we project our personality as open and transparent it also largely with some purpose and intention. Interestingly we consistently observe the moves of others before opening our cards. Our perceptions to vulnerability push us to be a enigmatic personality and manifest in isolation. It has adverse impact on our relations and acceptance levels

Introspection and feedback from friends, colleagues and spouse can help us in being getting more awareness about our conduct. we need to avoid our temptation to carried away by the gains for being enigmatic.

Life After Death

when we take the decisions with over consciousness approach it shows our tendency of not visualizing beyond a limit. We are prone to get entangled in “if” and “buts” and ultimately miss the bus. There are situations those demands action without deep analysis and rationality. There is a life after death will make us brave with dignity to conquer any obstacles.

The grooming of individual plays a critical role in his or her style of decision making in personal and as well as professional life. Over the period we develop the tendency to avoid to take anything on our head. Mere permutation and combination only land us in acting upon in simple situations in for ordinary out comes.

Let start adopting the approach where we learn to listen from heart in some highly complex and stupendous challenges for getting more then ordinary results. Decisions taken with taking all known risks only carry us to the path of glory. Remember roads all ready traveled lead us to known horizon in all possibilities.

Living Dangerously

Life has more tilted towards the uncertainties then certainty these days .You are always living on edge and fear is overpowering our thoughts. The audacity of threat is immense and gradually starting effecting our normal lives. The confidences levels for all has taken a deep dip and way out seems to be difficult. Whole world is a danger zone for a common man and race for survival was never that hard. Fear has transformed in to negativity and all of us precarious to never ending pessimistic behavior.

When we create fear for others we also make ourselves also vulnerable to fear and if we indulge in demonstrating threat to others it also has impact on our confidence level as well. Negative energy can penetrate and propagate more swiftly then positive energy in us. Once we surrender and channelize our thought process towards hate and destruction there is no coming back from this state of mind. Handling terror with terror Strategy results in generating more terror.

The only answer is to refine our thinking process to avoid getting victim to biasness and vested interests and develop the strength to face the truth and realties around us. Our journey from being animal to human beings is still not reached to the desirable limits. We must be optimistic for enlightening our thinking based on better values and beliefs rather on perceptions.

Balancing Internality and externality

Internality is related to people having extra ordinary faith on their capabilities. They are the one who believe in themselves and take all good or bad in any outcome on their head. The self confidence is the significant and prominent trait in people high on the internality. They believe in execution with taking onus on personal accountability in all outcomes related to them. They are self driven and keep on looking to take lead for showing their competence to other. They are loner and find it difficult to get along in building the relations. People who are high on internality are bound to prone to frustrations and depression. They are over rational and for failure in life they take all the blame on them selves. So some times our strengths can hamper us to conduct our life in balanced manner.

Externality is visible when we associate our success or failure in life to factors which we believe are out of individual control. Our dependency on others is extremely high for all the ventures relevant to us. Circumstances, situations, luck and other individuals are integrated part to share the success and failures in our life. Our self confidence depends on factors extended to others. When we are high on externality it may project us looser or person low on confidence

For being more effective we must balance both externality and internality. Extreme of both is damaging. For balancing this trait the proven method is self introspection for all the out comes to reach to valid reasons. Even if we are master in all spheres the external factors play it role in our success and failure. Capabilities and competence is the prime factor to change the circumstances in our favour.

Mind Games

We tend to be articulate in our conversations with other most of the times. Interestingly over the period it also lead us being manipulated in our expression. The originality of thoughts is overpowered by the layers of diplomatic flavors. Our mind is consistently over work to facilitate us for deliverance of our preference .Over consciousness become the hall mark of our communication and we put extra effort to pin down others for satisfying our ego. This phenomena is due to insecurity ,arrogance and may be due to the prevailing circumstances. Mind games reflects our ability to counter the perceived threats and strength to capture the opportunities.

The interpersonal relation and net working is based on trust and when we are over indulge in mind games to project our self ,there are chances of getting exposed. If we are obsessive in camouflaging our personality and character , our smartness is vulnerable to scrutiny. We need to true our self at least in situation where we are not affected immensely for our status or ego. Mind games increase our stress as our conduct is not in harmony with our true self. Keep life simple and straight ,we may not need any mind games for being effective in meeting our personal or professionals challenges.

Personal Hours

Our preoccupation denies us from giving some time to enrich our thinking process. We all need some process to rejuvenate our energy levels. The concept of personal hours is an excellent method to up lift our spirits. Idea is to devote some time in a day for individual counselling. When we are in self confinement for some period, it is time for deep focus and our commitment to relax.

The ideal time is the early morning hours as the environment has all the freshness to cool our mind. We need to fix the exact hours and frequency for keeping good discipline to take full benefits of this activity. For further structuring the period is specifically bifurcated in small parts to focus on area of preference like relationships, occupations, self improvement, future plans other matter concerning us. In this exercise we are raising the issues and only we are the solution provider. Once we are competent to resolve our issues the next step will lead us to initial stage of mediation and spirituality.

Experiment with the idea it may give some direction to be a better human being. We are holding the key for our self improvement and only contention is to evolves means for it

Can Life be Different?

The day starts with typical monotonous activities for all of us. The day in day out we are trapped in the vicious circle for survival. Sometimes when we sit and introspect we find our self in long tunnel and only option with us is to keep on follow the set norms, lifestyles till our existence. Even when we share our troubles with others we realise that all are in same boat and no one is on smooth track. The intensity of challenges may vary depending on individual’s status but story is same for all. We die many deaths before our ultimate journey by ignoring our inspirations, due to emotional fall outs, loosing values and getting in compromised state without will and so on.

Life can be different even with these on going realties. The mantra is digging the moments of joy in all affairs of life. To start with at least we can throw different prospective to all aspects those are affecting us in day to day life for treating matters differently. We must take stand on issues where we have the leverage to hold on, means matters in our individual control. Managing our own inspirations with aplomb and creating opportunities to live same life with different flavours. Follow others physically but keep your mind open to your personalised, cherished thoughts. We have got only one life, live with your terms even if you need to disguise your true colours to others

Luck The hidden Treasure

Luck is the hidden factor which plays an important role in managing the stress. Its a package without any limiting conditions, all depends on choice for giving value in our affairs. It shows us the way to think beyond logics sometimes and facilitate in experimentations.

With or without our intent luck is a phenomenon accepted by all of us. Its a trigger that push us to unknown horizons and we are encouraged to take chances. Luck allow us to balance the rationality with irrationality for more seasoned approach.

Over dependence on luck is detrimental but it help us in venturing for our dreams. The foresightedness depends on our capacity to challenge the facts and luck is there to play its role. Another interesting aspect is that in case we are not able to taste the success the luck act an ventilator to ease down our frustration,we can treat it as bouncing board. Its better to blame the unknown factor for our setbacks to manage life in more harmonious way. Use the luck factor for more positive approach and to strengthen our belief in our decision making.

Hope against Hope

The demanding moments in life put us on the edge and there are times when we are not able to visualize any ray of hope. We call it dead end and life seems to reach at the hopeless juncture. Uncertainties and complexities make us susceptible to extreme negativity and that is something natural. But same time the situation of desperation opens the doors for some headway.

Any circumstances where you have nothing to loose lead us to an opening that what ever we get, it is gain only. When we are at scratch then we cannot loose more by all possibilities. This phenomenon is very relevant to make us positive in extreme circumstances. The anticipation against nothing will divert us to optimism means you are at bottom and any positive trend is an increase from zero only.

When we stretch our thinking to ultimate negative out comes, we become more fearless and it manifest in being positive even in testing times. More in your hand more insecure you feel and the moment we start realising that there is nothing to be loose at my end our fears vanished. In life there are times when we need to look forward to orient our thinking in positive means by creating solutions from our thought process only as we are mere spectator to happenings around us.

Religion in You

We may be the follower of various religions but there is a religion inside us. Our religion is may be due to circumstances, personal or social reasons. The religion is source of faith, trust, and security and provides us the solace to face the challenges thrown on us by the happenings in our life. It may be the sole factor for giving us the identity and we look forward to religion for directions in case of any dilemmas.

Religion also influences us to unilateral and dogmatic thinking, the reasoning, and logic sometimes become susceptible. We tend to start accepting all the events in the religious flavor. When the influence is very strong we are myopic in evaluating the facts and may be with all the good intentions.

Belief inside us is the real religion and we need to follow it first then any other established one. Our soul always guides correctly on evil and good, heaven and hell. We as individual come first and religion come later. Avoid marginalizing your intellect on orthodox thinking influenced by particular religion or sect. If we are religious in our thoughts it will help us to follow our religion in more meaningful manner. We as an individual first must build the profound faith in our own values and belief for being eligible to be a good religious human being.

Be critical and not cynical

Criticality is associated with analysis and evaluation and being critical is a healthy process. When we are critical it relate to our judiciousness for assessment of situation. It also depicts our inclination to explore the matter in depth, which help us in totality to gain more knowledge and awareness. In this process we are keen not to take things on their face value and like to build our own prospective to matters around us. Our thinking process get more seasoned with continuous and persistent questioning. In our network of people we are not taken for granted as we can stand on put forward our opinion with all the confidence. We put into practice the openness with appraising the circumstances.

Cynical is the state of extreme pessimism and negativity in evaluating the matters and facts we may deal in our life style. We are closed in our thinking and follow only the tunnel view in related or non-related matters. The stage is of complete darkness with extreme rigidity in our mind. We are obsessive to a point of view and refrain from accepting any flexibility. The perception of absolute hopelessness prevails over us and options seem to be dried up.

The interesting aspect is our understanding regarding criticality and cynicism is very ordinary. Most of the time we are not aware when we have crossed the dividing line of criticality to cynicism. We become slave to our over possessive negative thoughts and with time we are only propagating the cynicism in our views and opinion. Try to introspect the personal opinions to limit the compulsive behavior. Don’t carried away by egos and self-centered approach. Start accepting dissimilar views for showing better receptivity.

The Heart Overpowers the Mind

There is a constant on going fight between heart and mind inside us. The numerous theories are developed and discussed in this reference in past, present. Point of acrimony is who has the edge, heart or mind in controlling our conduct. Person can live with dead brain for quite substantial time and without heartbeat the story is finished immediately, it shows that our life is ultimately on the mercy of our heart.

We hear our heart first and then message is passed on to mind for evaluating the thoughts, data or facts, so all initiations is from heart only. All the senses carry their meaning from feelings and feelings are nothing but the voice of our heart. Heart is our soft ware and mind is hard ware in our body. So without soft ware the body doesn’t stand for any worthwhile existence.

Listen to your heart, even with best of your efforts mind may not able to control the heart. Its illusion that we can have command on our thoughts and are able to manage them being more rational and mature but in reality it never happens. Heart always speaks truth and only mind put layers of manipulations and maneuvering on our thinking. When we are not true at that moment mind tries to control our heart and predominately it always face the defeat. The guarded behavior on our part also reflects the phenomenon where heart is not pushing us to go all ends up in managing the particular situations.

Remove the façade of superficial persona where we live with double standards and go by what your heart say. It will help us in managing our self in more genuine environment based on truth and straightforwardness. Realize the overpowering presence of your thoughts coming directly from the core of your heart. Use your mind to mange and not to dictate, life can be wonderful.

Divergent Accepted wisdom

Following the established norms requires the convergent thinking process. We do as told to us or perceived by us in our prevailing environment. Telling in simple terms, adopting the straight line without any deviations in our thinking or execution. We are captive to conventional paths for more predictable out comes. No questions are raised and emphasis is to maintain status quo to the possible best. In discussions some of us may sound radical in our approach but unfortunately this fervour remains confined to discussions tables only. “Out of box thinking” sails only in conversations to impress others. Wisdom is related to typecast knowledge; learning’s for most of us and deviating thought process is low on acceptance. Conservative mind sets are reflection of rigidity in our outlook.

Divergent accepted wisdom parlance to openness in our personality. It shows our strength to raise questions and invite fresh thoughts in our execution and thinking. when we like to be different we need to explore at depth for being more effective resulting in consistent flow of ideas and facts.” why” is more prominent then “ yes “ in our normal communications. Conflicts are created to improve us further by gaining more knowledge through shaking the established norms.

We can master this trait in our normal routine if we start mending our ways to handle the issues with non conventional approach. Start putting query to all our acts in personal and working life. It will at least force us to think differently and with time execution can also be the part of this process. Your are not there to change the world around you but you can make your mark as pioneer in challenging the taboos affecting your wisdom to grow. Common man can live life distinctively different with open mind. Wisdom is never been privilege only for rich,intelligent and famous, we all can demonstrate it with divergent thinking.

Play Safe Results in Mediocrity

No Pain No Gain”, we all understood this but we may put our self in the trap of always playing safe. Over conscious mind always play safe and it only lead to mediocrity. The middle path approach is sign of escapism and we as a person also become very predictable with this kind of thinking process.

The choice of career is an excellent example of play safe approach. We rely on decisions where minimum risk is involved in opting for preference in our occupations. When we take decisions with minimum risks the gains are also average. The normal satisfaction levels are achieved after thrusting all the efforts due to typical adopted career options. Without being adventures pace of growth is also not substantial. We may keep on blaming the circumstances or fate for our plight but the reality is known to us. To acquire more knowledge and insight it again ask for exposure to unknown territories. Playing safe develops us only being a hollow person with low on knowledge and learning’s in life.

To maintain relations we are never in capacity to make all happy every time. We drag the relations and at few junctures over conscious in telling our feelings to save the relations. Emotions are debarred from conversations to play safe and there is tendency to mingle only with known group of acquainted people. In expressing love also we play safe so that other person may not take us for granted. Our network is also limited and typically confined to stereotyped individuals. Our dressing sense or choice of attire is also is the victim of our over conscious approach. The food we take is again following the same stream.

Taking more risk is mantra to expect more gains, playing always secure and safe can only culminate at expected and predictable results. Exigent tasks put us on exciting frame of mind. We must avoid getting influenced by fear of failure in new venture; failures are as critical as success to enjoy the life to its best. Make surprises the acceptable part in all our endeavors, it will help us to overcome the mediocrity in all the fields related with us.

Celebrations swings the Mood

Celebrations are great source for uplifting our mood. Even achievement of trivial nature can be the reason for great celebrations. The few moments of mutual enjoyment can rejuvenate us remarkably. Monotony is part of any venture and it necessitates us to look for means and ways for creating energy, enthusiasm. Milestones are conquered by all of us irrespective of their importance or significance and important is to learn to celebrate. Even birthday and anniversary is an occasion of stupendous magnitude, Let it celebrate with great pomp and show and feel like being at the top of world. We keep on looking for major reason for celebrations which rarely come and in this process miss these opportunities of enjoyment.

For managing our frame of mind there are no set rules and no therapy that provide panacea from all mental disorders. We are under consistent pressures to to remain balanced in day to day conduct in our life. Joy, cheerfulness and sense of humour are manifestation of present state of mind and celebrations help us in developing that platform, where we can flourish these traits. So look for the moments to celebrate whether small or big. We indulge in celebrations due to our self interest for getting the likelihood for enjoyment and breaking the monotony from our life styles. Grandeur of celebrations carries no meaning but keep on indulging in regular frequency is critical to refresh ourselves

“I Know All Syndrome”

The syndrome of "I know all” is reflected in most of us. In some, it is very prominent and in others it may be at reasonable level. The amazing fact is that perpetually we are not aware regarding the presence of this in our personality. The range of this syndrome is widespread from housewife to the top notch professional. Intensity varies from occasional showoff to permanent demonstration. We all deny it but with time there is always a possibility of having influence on us. Age is also no bar and we can observe this in kid and naturally in old warhorses as well.


The fallout of this syndrome is palpable to all of us. It overpowers our listening skill. We bring to a standstill our capacity to learning. It projects our personality high on superficial egos and keep on making its impact on relationships. We miss the option to strengthen our network because it can enhance our isolation from people. Our acceptance can only be due to the position and status we hold then respect, admiration.

The strong presence of this syndrome pushes us to a dark tunnel and rigidity is obvious in our behavior. We must introspect our conversations at regular intervals and it will reveal our shortcoming on this aspect. The controlled expression is sign of confidence but if we are not able to ensure it’s over influence in our communications, we may block our wisdom to be a better human being

Individuality The Prime Victim

We all exist in this world due to our Individuality and interestingly this aspect is ignored by us. All of us are unique and this distinctiveness of ours is always dear to us. Some times due to circumstances and misinterpretation of this aspect, we are not able to give the individuality its appropriate significance.

The gender bias is one of prime factor for compromising on our individuality. We tend to project our personality, which is overwhelmed by our gender then the individual as such. We are human beings first beneath our gender existence and this is profound belief we need to inculcate in our behavior. In relations we are always easily compromise on our personal exclusive character to build or hold on relations. What we are failed to appreciate that all the relations come later and our individuality is the foundation for our involvement in these affairs. The moment we start respecting the each other’s individuality the relations flourish. In working environment our individuality is precarious to ever growing influence of our superiors and to professional achievers. The prevailing culture also sway our identity to merge in surrounding bandwagon. Astoundingly invariably we pursue the lifestyle that is overpowered by situations then driven by our own distinctiveness.

So please hold on to your Individuality and more we hold on to it surely our effectiveness can reach to unimaginable heights. God has made us unique and if we keep on realizing this in our lifestyle we may able to contribute enormously to society and to our own satisfaction. The widespread synergy of humans efforts can lead to better outcome for all

Patience Pays

Patience is an investment and when we are able to practice it more in our life style it always give us more then what we are expecting .Patience is misunderstood most of the times as weakness or may project us soft. This view point may be relevant for some short period but in long term it doesn’t hold good. The trick is to take the endurance as your strength in resolving the situations and aiming gains in totality for all the persistence.

The jobs, relationships, success and effectiveness generate the circumstances for showing more and more determination to achieve the best. The focus is nothing but our resolve to reach at culmination level for our own satisfaction and it can be only possible with least deviations in our approach. So we are compelled to restrain from reactions and immediate gains.

Tranquillity in our thoughts is our ultimate weapon to conquer the negativity and adversities in our fight for reaching at epitome of all our goals. Avoid in getting in to traps where illusions of fast gains can lead us to wrong conclusions. Time is an essence for healing large scale ills created due to impatience. Keep faith in patience and we may not be looser in any juncture of life and like all other investments in long term it will pay.

Socialise for Refinement

When we meet different people in course of socialising it provide us the opportunity to learn being spectator to others behaviour. Gatherings are assimilation of personalities with varying traits and observing them is an exciting as well learning experience. As we are putting other people on scrutiny same is applied on us also and ultimately it lead us to refine ourselves.

Socialising is the platform where we depict our styles and at the same time get influence with approach and traits of fellow members. Predominately the socialising is voluntarily done activity that allows us to put on track to discover vivid attitudes existing in the society around us. The other interesting facet is we mingle in the group of our liking and where we believe that acceptance levels are up to the expected norms. This all manifest in high receptivity and readiness for change.

In context of socialising if we are conscious on learning from others it can be add and help us stupendously to refine our thoughts. Influences can be good or bad but the moment we are mending our ways the process of socialising is playing its part in altering our behaviours. So keep on socialising and keep in mind that this activity is there not only for building network or relationships but it also playing its part in refining our traits

The Money, Driving the Emotions

They say money is not everything but yes money is something. Money can create the impact on our emotions. The moments may be difficult to build up but money has the power to generate the situations. Money is to be understood as means in handling the emotions. We can surely influence the people around us with the gestures where our capability to spend play a vital role.

As an individual we all enticed by materialism and money is a critical link for managing the reasonable materialism in our life. The immediate impact of money on relationships and emotions is immense and cannot be denied even if we desire to ignore this aspect. Money can mend the negativity or aversions in our conduct with others.

Money also provides us the feel good factor and we all love to be in euphoric conditions occasionally. Economic hardships confer on us the jolts and money is there to smoothen the bumps, even it may be for the time being. Smiles can be crafted and money always assists us in doing so. If we have means to enhance and sustains the emotions there is no harm in exploiting them to the fullest.

Self Talk

The best companion of yours is you. The all unanswered questions can find the answers when we talk to ourselves. Self-talk is an excellent practice for self-introspection and to control our emotional outburst. We may not able to open our self even to a very close individual in life and there are situation when we reveal the twofold personality in society and relationships. In these circumstances self-talk can be an excellent ventilator for giving us some comfort.


Always initiate a discussion in your mind regarding any matter, which may be occupying your thoughts or actions. Start developing the habit of conducting the question and answer sessions in the self-talk on the any related topics and matter. The interesting aspect of the self-talk is that you are not able to maneuver or camouflage the realities. In this course we are able to develop the capacity to mend our behavior. All the upheaval to
Put right our thoughts and action is inside us only and it facilitates us to demonstrate the calm and mature face to the out side world.

Self-talk help us to reinforce our beliefs and value. We rarely find the true guide and mentor on whom we can rely for all the support at all times and self-talk is the option always available to us. So practice self-talk and involve in this overwhelmingly to take right decisions, for controlling emotions and last but not least with time getting clarity about the beliefs for which we are existing.

“Allergy to Ambiguity” A Stress Trap

Why things are not happening as to our expectations, it adds to the anxiety, resulting in more stress. When we are allergic to unpredictability we are more prone to stress. Uncertainty is part of life even with best of our efforts we are bound to face it, but predominately we are ill prepared to mange the haziness in life. Emphasis on over rationality can make us prone to stress, excess dependence on systems has consequential impact on our capacity to handle stress.

In our life situations are build to give us surprises, there is nothing wrong in being very immaculate in our approach to manage circumstances, however you cannot control everything on your own. Exhibiting much confident on our deeds is sign of high internality and diversions on any front perturb us enormously. Aversion to unknown horizons is indicative of our tendency to get trapped in stress.

Start enjoying some vagueness, volatility is thrill in itself and avoid following the obvious path. Bring Resilience in your personality and it may help in managing day-to-day stress more effectively. Don’t be evasive to chaos and accept unpredictability also as the part of life. Mental readiness for unknown is a time tested mode for managing the avoidable stress.

Unlearn to Learn

For developing the learning habit in our personal and professional matters we need to first understand the concept of unlearning. The biggest block in learning is our conviction to the existing approach and life style. You cannot learn anything worthwhile till there is an acceptance for acquiring of some new and fresh inputs.

We have strong tendency to stick to our self-defined values and thinking patterns. For getting acquainted to unlearning process we are required to question the status quo and it’s a slow process. Acquiring something new is much easier then avoiding the existing fervors. Unlearning give us pain and force us to capitulate present thought process. Unlearning divulge in opening the mind set so that fresh notions can be registered

Learning is key for survival in all spheres of Life and for being an effective learner, unlearning is stepping stone. When we say we have learned from our mistakes ,it connote to unlearning only. So unlearning is diversion from rigidity to openness. Once we are able to leave behind the burden of past impressions the stage is ready for consistent learning. The environment and circumstances of an individual influence the capacity and capability to unlearn but we all struggle to break the shackles of inflexibility, which is key to ignite the learning process.

Pampering Yourself

To boost our self-confidence, it’s vital to pamper our self. We as an individual aspire for getting best of best in life. Avoid unnecessarily controlling your desires and indulge in fulfilling all the wishes. We are conscious in putting our efforts to make others comfortable for upholding relations or for emotional needs. In this process we tend to ignore our own needs and may be not able to give the appropriate priority to self-necessities.

Pamper your self with best of attires; don’t hesitate to get involve in pursuance of even luxurious habits. Feed your taste buds with exotic food occasionally and buy worldly commodities to show off. Build the fitness level to make others envy and be in a company, which pertains to class in itself. Enjoy the voyage of your liking for managing the stress and to explore the world of your preference. Play the music of your choice and dance to the glory as and when you get chance.

It’s you, that is most important and when you are living for your self with reasonable satisfaction it reflects in self-confidence. You need to pamper your self before giving this opportunity to someone

Passion, The sole criteria for Glory

Passion is fuel, which put us on accelerated mode in all our engagements. Life consumed in mundane affairs results in giving us the only average gains. The circumstances influence the individual’s stride to pursue his or her passion. It’s a vicious circle as once we compromise in our endeavor to follow our passionate pursuit; we may spend all our efforts in achieving the mediocre consequences. Passion has synergic impact on our efforts to marching on path of glory.

The race for survival hampers and dampens the fire of passion but our mind set plays the voluminous role in igniting or diffusing the passion inside us. Life provides us the opportunity in one or other aspect where we can demonstrate our endurance for being passionate for something. Look for those prospects, which may facilitate us to show our enthusiasm for meeting our passionate aspirations.

Passion is epitome for achieving glory, when mind and heart are unison for trailing any objective; stage is set for exhibiting the passion. We are hyper to look beyond any limits and the moment the fence of limitation is shattered the success is obvious outcome. In all ventures passion is threshold energy ready to be exploded and which ultimately provide us the real sense of achievement.

Look for a Mentor

No one is perfect and there are situations when all our moves to refine our intellect or thoughts are exhausted. We seek the direction to achieve landmarks and mentor is a dependable source to facilitate us in this endeavor.

Mentor can act as a bouncing board so that we are on the right path with absolute focus. Formalizing the relation of friendship lead to the emergence of mentorship, which is high on respect and receptivity. The faith and acceptance are key drivers in recognizing a mentor. Interpretation of process of mentoring is to look upward and that means we are seeker and humble in our approach.

Mentoring is wrongly understood and elucidated if it overpowers our own persona. We need not to confine mentoring only in professional relations and if it all it is confined only for professional purpose it will not sustain far along. Mentor influences us first as an individual and then may be professionally. Mentoring is relevant in every facet of life due to complexities and challenges of modern life styles.

For better focus and comfort let allow some one to be our mentor and recognizing some one as mentor is overwhelmingly depends on our choice and preferences. Mentor will allow us to reduce our burden to mange the ever-demanding expectations from life.

Listening skills Imperative For Relations Building

Listening skills are paramount for building Relations. Listening requires patience and perseverance to allow other to put forward his/her viewpoint. We need to learn to control our emotions to improve our listening skills. We are reactive by nature for self-defense or for dominance in our conversations.

By listening others we provide an opportunity to them for better comfort and understanding. All of us are looking for an opportunity to ventilate and if somebody provides it, the relationships start taking shape. The intricacies of relations can be managed effectively with just listening only. Good listening allow us to comprehend the personalities of other and which is relevant in building the relations.

Bad listener struggle to build and sustain relations and acceptance among others is always susceptible. Bad listener over a period develops illusions and misconception in relations, as their understanding in relations is questionable.


It sound easy to be a good listener but demands resilience from individuals prospective. Good listeners depict more open personality and which can be a base for long lasting relationship. Controlling our temptations to indulge in unwarranted conversations can help us in strengthening the listening skills.

Being alone, it’s Wonderful

We all are loners and when we are with our own company its wonderful feeling. Loneliness is an opportunity to explore our thoughts and perceptions. These are moments of pause and an opportunity to accompany your self. The thoughts are pure and true, as we need not to pretend.

Indulge in self-talk to introspect and to discover the hidden part of the personality. When we are alone mentally as well physically the stage is set for complete freedom and space. When we start enjoying alone its never boring and if we in this status for long we may get hooked to loneliness.

Accompanying self-save us from emotional disasters and we are able to demonstrate, develop the best in us.Invariably we look forward for personal space in life to challenge our thinking to deliver the best to the world. We must keep some time in a day for our self, it will help us in developing better focus to conquer the challenging milestones in all aspects of our life. Being alone is not a connotation of remaining aloof from society but an excellent opportunity to rejuvenate our individualistic thought process for achieving all the success.

Creativity Leads To Positive Energy

When we are inclined to involve in something new it results in making us excited. The excitement is a stage for positive energy. Monotony is a breeding ground for negativity and any repeated task; work or assignment is intimidation to positive energy. Dullness overpowers us in predictable situations and our mind set reflects the rigidity.

We can think divergently in performing the mundane tasks to highly complicated tasks.
Cooking a new dish, having different Hairstyle, changing the interior of home or office, all these activities provide us the opportunities to innovate. Even in handling the relationships the new ways and means freshen the bond of companionship.

When we start exploring and executing new ideas and thinking in our normal trivial rituals it help us in being positive. Any new venture demands collaboration, exploration, trust and zeal to accomplish it, which compel us to be positive.

Creativity is not only associated with drastic changes, even small –small incremental changes around us lead to excitement, enthusiasm. We all are creative and the key factor is to change our orientation for thinking differently and the end result is that we are more positive.

Self- constraint the Real Meditation

Controlling our senses is in itself is a kind of meditation. Situations provoke us to react in adverse manner in particular circumstances but exhibiting restrain is the real challenge. Temptations and provocations are there to provoke and we keep on fighting in our endeavors to restrain from them. Its not easy and our mind keep on wavering till we control our thinking and thoughts.

Enlightening our thinking to a better and broader prospective is critical in observing the self-constraint in normal life style. No one is perfect but at the same time we can distinguish the wiser individual from ordinary by his or her conduct. Some times glamour, money, emotions and other attractions press us to succumb to their influence and we struggle to over come them.

The best approach to achieve the Self-constraint is Self Talk. When we are consistently indulged in self-talk it facilitate us in questioning our act and omissions resulting in better control. Being a spectator observing others conduct is also an excellent mean to re- look in to our own reactions. We become wiser by learning from others mistakes. Be critical and avoid being cynical to learn from the situations.

The taming the mind to our preferred instructions is meditation and we all individuals strive to move in this direction for better control on our acts.

Marriage and Product Life Cycle a simliar Path

Development

The stage for staring with only getting acquainted to each other. Common interest, personality and position is base for taking it to a step forward

Strategy

Look beyond Initial influences and evaluate the prospectives for the long innings

Introduction

The stage is for exploration and the anxiety is high. The expectations from each other are low and endeavour is to make impression. Both partners make efforts to promote the strengths and qualities of each other.

Strategy

Prepare you self to face the conflicting views and to be flexible to create space for each other

Growth
The relationship takes another step, every aspect of companionship look rosy. Expectations from each other start to take further leap and euphoria is around for meeting the future milestones.

Strategy

Start understanding each other as different Individuals.

Maturity
Wake call from the real facts for building the relation ship. Preferences have changed, all that was sounding great start hurting. Stage is set to face the hard times in taking the relationship further

Strategy

Make effort to Appreciate the strengths of the partner as compare to others

Decline
Last stage as relationship is on verge of taking down turn. Liking has taken shape of disliking and efforts are on to sustain the relations named marriage

Strategy

Rejuvenate your relationship by revisiting you era of Development and Introduction once a while.

We all need to build the strategies which can be effective in different stages of marriage life cycle. Uniform approach in all the phases will not help us to sustain the beautiful relation of marriage

Adaptability and Compromise

Adaptability is critical for survival and moment we are rigid in our approach it’s the beginning of turmoil. Adaptability demands change and change is always painful. It asks for flexibility, diversity and above all the adjustments in life. We all are comfortable in living in the status Quo and any incremental or drastic alteration results in minor or major disturbance. We may not able to maintain the unidirectional style constantly. Adaptability is key for growth irrespective of our position and status.

Compromise is surrendering to the situations and to sacrifice one’s aspiration, desires and dreams. This is the state where circumstances have overpowered us and we have become slave to it. Compromise demonstrates the helplessness in our gestures and disseminates the incompetence. We can camouflage our character by pleading the adjustment factor but reality is compromise shows our tendency to concede to the existing state of affairs


Adapt but not compromise otherwise it will marginalise our personality and character. Adaptability is smartness and compromise is thoughtlessness. Adhere to your values even in demanding situations and adapt to hold on and not for compromising.

Faith Tackles Stress

Faith means when we accept the things on their face value. Faith is great healer as it is the situation of complete submission. We feel comfortable and relax in this state of mind. When we are over rational in our approach, it results in adding more complexities.


Faith provides us the sense of security in our mind and we feel more confident, assured about our deeds. Faith gives us hope and energy to overcome from dead ends.
Faith bolsters our belief on our convictions and values and we are ready for another pursuit even after frequent failures in our ventures.

Faith is not confined only to Religion and God; it is relevant in all gestures and routines of our normal life. Understanding of faith is related to our own confidence in relationships, conduct and lifestyle. Faith is driver which keeps on pushing us in any hopeless situation and ramification of this is the emergence of positive energy

Faith is an effective stress buster and it nullifies the negativism from our thoughts. Stress is the outcome of over depends on rationality for managing the unpredictable events in Life. Have Faith, everything will become predictable and life can be stress free

Assertiveness and Aggressiveness

There is a thin line that divides aggressiveness and assertiveness and most of time we are not aware when we have crossed our limits. We treat aggressiveness our strength to over Power other Individual but it’s a misconception on our part. We may achieve the momentary edge over others by our dominating behavior but the impact of this edge is never long lasting. Aggressiveness is a sign of weakness and we must realize getting aggressive is exhibiting the hollow aspect of our personality. Another myth is that by being aggressive allow us to pas the stress on others. Reality is when we are aggressive stress always engulfing us in its bad effects. Easy approach is to loose our temperament and pose one self as so called powerful personality among others. Aggressiveness in any situation never gives any long lasting solutions and as hate breed hate.

Assertiveness is an approach where we are articulate in our communication without offending anyone. You respect the boundaries of others and at same time able to defend your self from other’s aggression. Some time it sound bookish but being assertive distinguish the refined person from an ordinary one. This trait helps us in graduating to another level of maturity. The best way of mastering this trait is in our approach of handling the issues with magnanimity. Generosity is rare strength and it makes us strong and confident.

Be aggressive to follow our beliefs and convictions, we all are wonderful human beings to get indulge in trivial matters where we waste our energy by getting aggressive.

Appetite for Praise

We all love praise and interestingly appetite for praise lure us to explore the opportunities to look for more praise from all around. One can pretend or project one self aloof from the attraction of enjoying praise but in reality it’s of every one liking.

Appetite for praise helps us to build a positive pressure in us to excel in all walks of Life. Once we are tasted the flavour of praise it directs us to ask it for more. Praise develops the euphoria in us for delivering more to attract more praise.

Praise can be related to any trait of individual personality. Some like the praise for their Knowledge, appearance, expression, status, position, maturity, wealth or any other talent and traits. Reaction on praise varies from Individual to individual depending on the particular personality but fact is, it touches all of us.

The over appetite for self praise can have its negative dimension as it allure one from reality. People around us exploit this weakness and we may live in our illusionary world. Let use our appetite for praise to drive us in achieving excellence in any aspect of our life. Avoid the trap on excess liking for self praise and do develop the approach to praise others also, all of us are found of praise.

Treat Your Body Like A Deity

Our moral, spiritual and physical strength depends on state of our physical fitness. We prey to God but neglect our fitness, which is the media to realize the power of almighty.

We must Love our Body and start devoting the energy and efforts to keep it in great shape. When we prey to God we shall ask for good health, Money, fame and status will always come with the good health.

Pampering the body with all the luxuries and glamour is a good way of getting passionate with our fitness. If you are in possession of excellent shape there is no harm in flaunting it. When we get complements frequently for our fitness level it results in putting pressure on us to maintain it to best shape.

Treat your Body like Deity to gain best in Health and fitness. Our Body is precious and delicate it asks for all the care and attention. God is within us and maintaining fitness is another form of worship. Get ambitious about our expectation for Health gains from our daily regime.

Mother’s Love

The real precious and pious relation is the Relation of Child and the Mother. The relation is without any expectations and based purely on love and affection. When we are in any relation there is always some consideration attach with it. Mother’s love is without any reciprocal expectations.

Beauty of this relation is never ending recognition and encouragement. We as a human being always strive for getting the recognition and praise in all aspects of Life and Mother is fountain for this for whole life.

All the relations need some efforts to strengthen it further at some stage of its cycle but Mother and child relation is self sustained due to its beautiful base. As a person preference can be different in understanding of this relations but in core of heart it’s meaning for all us is same.

We must give due respect to this relation and remind our self that Mother’s love is the only love which is without any prejudice and selfish motives.

Politics an Essential ill

Politics and politicians are part and parcel of our environment. We may be not very keen follower of politics around us but same time invariably it is touching us in different spheres of our existence.

Media is the prime factor in propagating the politicians and their deeds in society. Fact is that politics has impact on individual’s lifestyle irrespective of position, status, Regions and Religion, even if we are repulsive to politics. Media creates the Towering personalities of politician with active participation of masses.

Something, which is so intriguing around us to avoid, we must start recognizing its presence and explore further the good, bad and ugly aspects of poltics, politicians. The socio-economic factors are directly related to act and omission of politicians where we are always affected. Politicians also reflect the character of Nation as they are coming from same society as of our origin.
So let we as sensitive and conscious Human being play the constructive role in deciding fate of our nations with little more understanding of politics and politicians

Helplessness

We feel really painful when we are not able to help somebody in distress. There are situations where we are so keen to make others comfortable but circumstances do not allow us to do so.
People without job or may be no means to carry their livelihood are often faced by us in different stages of life. Some are in dire need of love and affection due to difficult phase in life. We feel desperate to take them out of these miserable situations but may be not successful always. It leaves pain and guilt in our hearts for a considerable time.

These feelings for others are with logic as we visualize ourselves in this kind of state sometimes and it is the reason we relate with other individual’s hardships. Being emphatic is god gesture on our behalf as it shows that we are sensitive to the happenings around us.

We as a sensitive human being must keep on making the efforts to extend our hand with our best of means. Feeling of helplessness is a positive sign of being concerned about others.

Nature Make Us Humble

When we are close to are close to nature it makes us more humble. We see our selves as small in front of power and beauty of nature.

Mountains challenge us to conquer them and sea indicates the strength of vast resources. Nature shows us calmness and harmony. Morning sky is sign of hope and freshness. River talks about tedious journey of life with all up and downs. Rain brings cheer and excitement.

Nature force us to redefine our limits and reach .We are bound to appreciate the magnanimity of nature .Nature influence our thought process and it’s a proven factor that people who live close to nature are more talented. Our own illusions are broken in front of vastness of nature.

Respect the beauty of nature and initiate efforts to break the euphoria of self claimed supremacy

Thank God it’s Saturday

We all need a break from our never ending pursuits for survival and growth. Pause in life provides us the breather from ever demanding lifestyles.

Break is a change and change is always good as it breaks monotony. Getting excited about some change rejuvenates us and we are ready for another plunge after a pause from routine affairs.

Its time for indulgence, indulge our self to fullest in whatever activity we love to pursue. Over indulgence is great in breaks, it help us in ventilate our latent desires. Pampering our own self is paramount for joy and happiness. We get exuberant with consuming our desires and needs to maximum.

Be natural and real in breaks to your character and personality, its time not to camouflage our true self to enjoy to the limits. Satisfy your taste buds, listen to music that soothes your soul and be with friends where we share our thoughts and feelings without any constraints.

God has given us one Life and making it meaningful and enjoyable is creation of mankind. let enjoy it to the best of our means.

Fear Of unknown

We all are consistently live in fear of unknown. Unpredictability keeps us on tenterhooks in all phases of our life. The fear of unknown happenings haunts everyone.

This fear can be constructive and destructive for our success and effectiveness. If we treat this fear as positive pressure then it may push us to perform better. Unnecessary fear at same time may jeopardize our future.

Let face the challenge of unknown, it adds charm to our journey of ever exciting future.

Innocence

We need to observe the innocence in all the aspect of our Life. This practice will facilitate us to become more humble. Innocence allows us to view the complex matters in very simple ways.

Our gestures and expression superimpose our true self and goodness. Innocence demonstrates the beautiful and hidden part of our character to world. The state of Innocence is the epitome of easiness and relaxation in our behavior.

Love, emotions and affection keep us in innocence status, as we are more true to ourselves in this state of minds. Innocence is an idle platform for learning and growth; we are more receptive for change. Innocence is natural and that is the reasons it is faraway from manipulations.

Innocence is base for lateral thinking process. Venturing in unknown territories is only possible with innocence and ultimately it leads to originality. Innocence is a catalyst in building the relationships we are seen more trustworthy and acceptable to others.

Don’t mend your ways to project your self to be more rational always Be remain as you are it will also help us to be more effective

Pseudo Management

Team Work
We believe in team work where members compete with one another to achieve nothing. The Goals are met and all members are free to take the credit .Awards are based on team performance on each individuals capability to influence the Boss.

Leadership
We groom the leader to lead themselves to top positions .Leaders are key in developing business and organizations on their own and to get all the credits. They are preacher and not supposed to follow as this is the job of associates. They are Role models for others as they have reached the level of perfection.

Talent Management

Talent identification and development is the job of talent itself. We only facilitate in giving hikes if they decide to leave us. Attracting new talent depends on market forces which are beyond our control.

Empowerment
All are empowered to take a decision for not taking any decisions. Empowerment is critical for executing all the decisions with consensus at top.

Vision/Values
Vision of the organization is driving us all to show these to our customers. Customer is the king and vision/values cam impress the customer. Values our integrated in the management approach of abiding, these till the point of convenience.

Corporate Governance

We manage our business to avoid all he processes that can make any impact on our disclosures we like to avoid.

Human Relations
Managing our employees with applying best of HR interventions is core to our business strategy and employees are accountable for effectiveness of these initiatives. Relations management is employee’s internal matter and as to our values management need not play around in these matters.

Understand yourself to Understand Others

In Man Management the most critical factor is to understand the environment in which we operate. The quintessential is to have the insight of individual preference and behavioral trait to be more effective in all situations of man management. The skill need and requires

Sensitivity
Sensitivity is put us in better position to understand others feelings and preferences. Being sensitive to people emotions, feelings and situations equip the individual to be more effective in handling people. If we insensitive in our approach it keep us at distance to reality of situations.

Considerate
The next critical factor in understanding other is our ability to considerate towards people with we are dealing. Its give and take situations, more we are into it more we gain in our understanding others.

Dependability
More dependable on our responses to other expectances, our reliability reckoned by people around us. To become a sound board dependability is crucial factor.

Consistency
The consistency is the whole mark of our reflection to other. Introspection of our deeds in Human Relations depicts our competence to understand others.

Predictability
Being predictable facilitate us see other in same situations and understand them better. The predictability and consistency go hand by hand in making strong bonds so other can confide in your persona.

Vulnerability
Some times to be in others shoes its relevant to be as vulnerable as all human beings can be in some particular situations.

The Road Map For Good Health

For your health only you are responsible, You can’t pass it on others.
· The health care is given the least priority but repercussions are too grave to bear.
· Talking and discussing on health matters lead us nowhere.
· Little Knowledge on health issues results in self created mind blocks
· Learning from others mistakes is first step for getting committed about our health.
· Life style and health go hand by hand ,you need to appreciate it always.
· You are the best to diagnose the state of your health, ignoring is calling for trouble.
· Setting self targets can provide us path to achieve best for our well being.
· Mind cure us first and medication only facilitates in fast recovery.
· Pain is for you and impossible to share, bear it or avoid choice is ours.
· Good Health is bliss It is gained and not delivered.

Are we true to ourself?

We learn to manipulate with one-self and then with others .we are in illusions of self-praise and camouflage the reality to propagate the self-image. The myopic view of life teaches us to lie to our own self for survival. The contradictions become the integral part of our personalities. “I” approach is to boost our Egos and not for introspecting our own deeds. We are the masters of self-directed isolated Images. Our gestures are predominantly speaking the language of less conviction and more of conflicting thoughts. “You” and "I” battle is with in one self and we keep on fighting with others. Circumstances become the buzzword to escape our true self.

Happiness

Life is to be live by moments. We understand this but at same time feel that all is not as simple as it sounds. We are still looking for answers to the questions We keep on putting to ourself. The meaning of happy relations, goodness, appropriate emotions, love all depend on the perceptions of each individual. Few gestures of yours may be giving you the sense of happiness but for others it can be the matter of pain.

You being kind mostly to others results in you are taken for granted. If you are articulate you are branded as diplomatic. If you show faith and magnanimity you are bound to get surprises.

The real pain is when you are not able to put forward your own desires, expressions, feelings, emotion in fear of getting in to problems for your self or for others. With best of your efforts to make you self to understood by others, each individual treat you as to his or her mind set about your personality. I believe suppression can never make us being normal and when you are not normal with one self it always add complications in life. Living as unique individual the way God has created us is a great challenge we all are fighting for.

The concept of plan check and do only facilitate you in survival but never makes you happy. Making understood our beliefs and values to others never been easy. Some People gave attentions to all this but they never accepted these beyond a point. Keeping life simple has not helped us being true to our self. The contradictions of our beliefs at times hampered the clarity of thoughts. To whom and why keep on restricting the sharing of our emotions and only If at all we share with others these were only our fears. The holding of our feelings, emotions resulted in being more pessimistic and less assertive individuals.

Our journey is still on and looking for solutions within, striving for finding more clarity by sharing, listening. With time and age you become mirror of you self you see what you have created for you self. We all seek empathy but people around you provide only sympathy that makes you more weak.

The life only creates obstacles and life it self only provides the way out ,By being positive let us hope for right paths which can lead us to happiness

BE HAPPY