Balancing Internality and externality

Internality is related to people having extra ordinary faith on their capabilities. They are the one who believe in themselves and take all good or bad in any outcome on their head. The self confidence is the significant and prominent trait in people high on the internality. They believe in execution with taking onus on personal accountability in all outcomes related to them. They are self driven and keep on looking to take lead for showing their competence to other. They are loner and find it difficult to get along in building the relations. People who are high on internality are bound to prone to frustrations and depression. They are over rational and for failure in life they take all the blame on them selves. So some times our strengths can hamper us to conduct our life in balanced manner.

Externality is visible when we associate our success or failure in life to factors which we believe are out of individual control. Our dependency on others is extremely high for all the ventures relevant to us. Circumstances, situations, luck and other individuals are integrated part to share the success and failures in our life. Our self confidence depends on factors extended to others. When we are high on externality it may project us looser or person low on confidence

For being more effective we must balance both externality and internality. Extreme of both is damaging. For balancing this trait the proven method is self introspection for all the out comes to reach to valid reasons. Even if we are master in all spheres the external factors play it role in our success and failure. Capabilities and competence is the prime factor to change the circumstances in our favour.

Mind Games

We tend to be articulate in our conversations with other most of the times. Interestingly over the period it also lead us being manipulated in our expression. The originality of thoughts is overpowered by the layers of diplomatic flavors. Our mind is consistently over work to facilitate us for deliverance of our preference .Over consciousness become the hall mark of our communication and we put extra effort to pin down others for satisfying our ego. This phenomena is due to insecurity ,arrogance and may be due to the prevailing circumstances. Mind games reflects our ability to counter the perceived threats and strength to capture the opportunities.

The interpersonal relation and net working is based on trust and when we are over indulge in mind games to project our self ,there are chances of getting exposed. If we are obsessive in camouflaging our personality and character , our smartness is vulnerable to scrutiny. We need to true our self at least in situation where we are not affected immensely for our status or ego. Mind games increase our stress as our conduct is not in harmony with our true self. Keep life simple and straight ,we may not need any mind games for being effective in meeting our personal or professionals challenges.

Personal Hours

Our preoccupation denies us from giving some time to enrich our thinking process. We all need some process to rejuvenate our energy levels. The concept of personal hours is an excellent method to up lift our spirits. Idea is to devote some time in a day for individual counselling. When we are in self confinement for some period, it is time for deep focus and our commitment to relax.

The ideal time is the early morning hours as the environment has all the freshness to cool our mind. We need to fix the exact hours and frequency for keeping good discipline to take full benefits of this activity. For further structuring the period is specifically bifurcated in small parts to focus on area of preference like relationships, occupations, self improvement, future plans other matter concerning us. In this exercise we are raising the issues and only we are the solution provider. Once we are competent to resolve our issues the next step will lead us to initial stage of mediation and spirituality.

Experiment with the idea it may give some direction to be a better human being. We are holding the key for our self improvement and only contention is to evolves means for it

Can Life be Different?

The day starts with typical monotonous activities for all of us. The day in day out we are trapped in the vicious circle for survival. Sometimes when we sit and introspect we find our self in long tunnel and only option with us is to keep on follow the set norms, lifestyles till our existence. Even when we share our troubles with others we realise that all are in same boat and no one is on smooth track. The intensity of challenges may vary depending on individual’s status but story is same for all. We die many deaths before our ultimate journey by ignoring our inspirations, due to emotional fall outs, loosing values and getting in compromised state without will and so on.

Life can be different even with these on going realties. The mantra is digging the moments of joy in all affairs of life. To start with at least we can throw different prospective to all aspects those are affecting us in day to day life for treating matters differently. We must take stand on issues where we have the leverage to hold on, means matters in our individual control. Managing our own inspirations with aplomb and creating opportunities to live same life with different flavours. Follow others physically but keep your mind open to your personalised, cherished thoughts. We have got only one life, live with your terms even if you need to disguise your true colours to others

Luck The hidden Treasure

Luck is the hidden factor which plays an important role in managing the stress. Its a package without any limiting conditions, all depends on choice for giving value in our affairs. It shows us the way to think beyond logics sometimes and facilitate in experimentations.

With or without our intent luck is a phenomenon accepted by all of us. Its a trigger that push us to unknown horizons and we are encouraged to take chances. Luck allow us to balance the rationality with irrationality for more seasoned approach.

Over dependence on luck is detrimental but it help us in venturing for our dreams. The foresightedness depends on our capacity to challenge the facts and luck is there to play its role. Another interesting aspect is that in case we are not able to taste the success the luck act an ventilator to ease down our frustration,we can treat it as bouncing board. Its better to blame the unknown factor for our setbacks to manage life in more harmonious way. Use the luck factor for more positive approach and to strengthen our belief in our decision making.

Hope against Hope

The demanding moments in life put us on the edge and there are times when we are not able to visualize any ray of hope. We call it dead end and life seems to reach at the hopeless juncture. Uncertainties and complexities make us susceptible to extreme negativity and that is something natural. But same time the situation of desperation opens the doors for some headway.

Any circumstances where you have nothing to loose lead us to an opening that what ever we get, it is gain only. When we are at scratch then we cannot loose more by all possibilities. This phenomenon is very relevant to make us positive in extreme circumstances. The anticipation against nothing will divert us to optimism means you are at bottom and any positive trend is an increase from zero only.

When we stretch our thinking to ultimate negative out comes, we become more fearless and it manifest in being positive even in testing times. More in your hand more insecure you feel and the moment we start realising that there is nothing to be loose at my end our fears vanished. In life there are times when we need to look forward to orient our thinking in positive means by creating solutions from our thought process only as we are mere spectator to happenings around us.